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I know no one is likely going to agree with me and the advice is likely to mark me the selfish villain. Perhaps I am a wicked, horrible person for even thinking about it for one single minute.
My boyfriend of 7 years and I have a very unsatisfying sexual relationship. He is on medication for his heart condition that one of the side-effects causes sexual issues. He has very little to no libido, when he can get it up it's rarely for long, and it is difficult for him to achieve orgasm. In spite of his dis-interest in sex he's "tried" on the rare occasion I bring up the subject of being unsatisfied to try and compensate for it. He'll try and manually masturbate me but the entire situation is clumsy and awkward and I'm left feeling horrible because the entire situation is so very clinical. He has no real interest in the act he's just trying his best. I eventually told him to stop because it's not what I really want anyway... I want him to want me, not to go through the motions out of some sort of social obligation.
I have not had a sexually satisfying experience with him in over a year now. What few orgasms I do have are through masturbation but that's not an act I particularly enjoy that often as I much prefer a mate.
I hate my libido, I hate that I crave sex so strongly because if you take away my sexual frustration I still very much love the man I'm with. He's sweet, funny and kind-hearted and a few other issues aside we're good friends and companions.
A couple months ago though I met someone through an online chatroom. We became friends and though we originally had no ulterior motive or intention we have become very close. We've got a -lot- in common and hope to remain close friends. Our conversations became a little sexually charged a month ago or so as we started talking about sexual tastes and interests. We have a lot in common there as well though he's far more experienced than I am.
In three weeks he is going to be in my town for a week on business. He wants to meet me.... and though he intends for it to be a purely plutonic meeting we both have "talked" about the "what if" scenario should things spark and we want to do more. I can't help but be curious about him... but is this my libido talking or something more?
Cheating is not something I would do on a fling with some random stranger... but for the first time in my life I'm actually considering it. I'm worried both that going through with it and having sex with this other guy is both morally wrong and will only make me crave to do it again.... and the thought that if I don't this frustration is only going to grow and grow until I burst and hurt my bf with the aftermath.
My boyfriend of 7 years and I have a very unsatisfying sexual relationship. He is on medication for his heart condition that one of the side-effects causes sexual issues. He has very little to no libido, when he can get it up it's rarely for long, and it is difficult for him to achieve orgasm. In spite of his dis-interest in sex he's "tried" on the rare occasion I bring up the subject of being unsatisfied to try and compensate for it. He'll try and manually masturbate me but the entire situation is clumsy and awkward and I'm left feeling horrible because the entire situation is so very clinical. He has no real interest in the act he's just trying his best. I eventually told him to stop because it's not what I really want anyway... I want him to want me, not to go through the motions out of some sort of social obligation.
I have not had a sexually satisfying experience with him in over a year now. What few orgasms I do have are through masturbation but that's not an act I particularly enjoy that often as I much prefer a mate.
I hate my libido, I hate that I crave sex so strongly because if you take away my sexual frustration I still very much love the man I'm with. He's sweet, funny and kind-hearted and a few other issues aside we're good friends and companions.
A couple months ago though I met someone through an online chatroom. We became friends and though we originally had no ulterior motive or intention we have become very close. We've got a -lot- in common and hope to remain close friends. Our conversations became a little sexually charged a month ago or so as we started talking about sexual tastes and interests. We have a lot in common there as well though he's far more experienced than I am.
In three weeks he is going to be in my town for a week on business. He wants to meet me.... and though he intends for it to be a purely plutonic meeting we both have "talked" about the "what if" scenario should things spark and we want to do more. I can't help but be curious about him... but is this my libido talking or something more?
Cheating is not something I would do on a fling with some random stranger... but for the first time in my life I'm actually considering it. I'm worried both that going through with it and having sex with this other guy is both morally wrong and will only make me crave to do it again.... and the thought that if I don't this frustration is only going to grow and grow until I burst and hurt my bf with the aftermath.