I am (32) yrs old, I have two children, 1 from my previous marriage and one with my current marriage. My oldest son has Autism Spectrum. I have been married since 2008. During our marriages my husband never made any attempts to seek marital counseling because he, doesn't believe it or, he doesn't want to open up to people because he has some kind of issues where he just cant talk to people about our marriage issues. I have attempt several time to try to make our marriage work. In 2009, I was pregnant with my son and he said he promise to see a marital counselor after the baby was born, well he never did that either. During this marriage their has been issues with my husband communicating with his Ex- girlfriends, most of them are in another state and all of them wanted to have sex with him. I felt that my husband disrespects me as a person. He doesnt understand me at all. I feel that when your married you both need to break. All my husband does is complain about how he bend over backwards and I dont appreciate him at all because he took two contract jobs in Afghanistan. That he spoils me with gifts, and show me love. Ok, gifts and etc doesn't make up for all the **** he put me through in the past. My husband cheated on me with his ex and I cheated on him with high school person. But, my husband came home for two weeks, all he did was complain about how I didn't give him enough attention. I am a mom of two children, and I feel that I have been a single parent raising two children by myself without his support hes been deployed most of the time of our marriage. I feel that he should that I should get a break once in awhile since I have played a role for mother, cooking,cleaning, providing for my children, I also take the kids to school, i pick them up and I get no credit. All my husband complained about because I didnt send him care package when he was deployed or i didnt mail him a letter. We both lost our jobs so I was living with my mother and father at the time. Which means my parents didnt like the idea that I wanted to get back with my husband because he abandon us because he cheated on me and he ran out of money. So his theory was to go back to NJ. Everytime I feel like he has changed he goes back to his same habits. I feel that I have mature alot since being a mother and grew up alot too. My husband still thinks hes this 16 yr old kid. He hasnt really been around his son, i had my son in 2010 and hes been in his life maybe the longest 6 months, my son is 2 1.2 yrs old, he has missed birthdays, thanksgiving, and etc. Today he tells hes drawing up a separation paper giving my son to me and he will pay 350.00 a month for child support. I dont think he can handle the responsibility being a father to our son if he wasn't with anyone. Than he tells me he will see his son when he can. WTF??? Our biggest arguments are mainly over stupid petty stuff, helping out around the house and with the kids. Is it that hard? All i ask for to clean up and help out. I shouldnt have to ask a grown ass man to take the trash out, I thought since he was home for R&R he can help me and give me a break but it didnt go that way. He complained that I didnt give him any affection vs attention while he was here. Helloooo... I have a 8 yr old and 2 1/2 yr old. Final straw was he was tired of me complaining about his parents and etc because he knows how I feel about them. His parents basically treated my son with autism and grab him and yelled at him like a piece of **** and nobody didnt do ****. I had to suck it up and let it happen. Than he told me if he was offer a job in Va that we can move there and buy a house. I am happy here in Texas. My oldest son has autism since i been married to him my son has been in 6 different schools from Kg-3RD GRADE. I dont think he understands the concepts of having a child with Autism and he doesnt understand that the needs my son needs. He says he does but I dont think so.