I am very confused about my relationship. My friend is my best friend. He is 45, I am 58. I am widowed, he is divorced. Our friends call us the love birds. We have dinner together 2-3 times a week; sometimes with friends. We go to concerts together. We go on vacations together and share a hotel room. We talk on the phone for hours. We have very intimate conversations; discussions I have never had with anyone else before. Truly he knows more about me than anyone. He is a man who is not afraid to cry. He will do anything for me, and me him. We have been going together for six months, but no sex. When he sleeps over he sleeps on the couch. Last weekend, after dinner and drinks, when I returned to the living room the lights were turned down low and soft music was playing. When I suggested we go to bed, he seemed shocked, so I backed off. I don't want to risk losing his friendship but am confused as to what he wants from our relationship.