Friendship. That would seem what he wants, what the deal is. He doesn't want a lover.
I'd be climbing the walls with this sort of interaction and no sex. How can you stand it?!I am very confused about my relationship. My friend is my best friend. He is 45, I am 58. I am widowed, he is divorced. Our friends call us the love birds. We have dinner together 2-3 times a week; sometimes with friends. We go to concerts together. We go on vacations together and share a hotel room. We talk on the phone for hours. We have very intimate conversations; discussions I have never had with anyone else before. Truly he knows more about me than anyone. He is a man who is not afraid to cry. He will do anything for me, and me him. We have been going together for six months, but no sex. When he sleeps over he sleeps on the couch. Last weekend, after dinner and drinks, when I returned to the living room the lights were turned down low and soft music was playing. When I suggested we go to bed, he seemed shocked, so I backed off. I don't want to risk losing his friendship but am confused as to what he wants from our relationship.
I'd feel the same...open up the Romance/ScarletBegonias said: I'd be climbing the walls with this sort of interaction and no sex. How can you stand it?!
Some serious talking is in order. If he knows so much about you and you about him...TALK ABOUT THIS in a direct,respectful way
Do you know why he got divorced? Is that something you would feel comfortable talking about?I have known him for several years, but I never knew his ex. He is divorced two years. I am widowed ten years. We have only been seeing each other for the past six months. I know I should talk to him about this but I am afraid if I bring up this subject I might jeopardize or make our friendship awkard.