I don't know if you remember my story. I am in a middle of a nasty divorce with 2 kids. We have been married for 10 years. He was abusive and I got a restraining order against him. Since the restraining order was finished, he took revenge on me by dragging me in court. We fight for the custody of the kids. He hasn't seen them for 5 months, didn't bother to call to see how they are. And now, all of the sudden he goes to child services to file a complaint that I don't allow him to see the kids. Of course it's not true. Child services are now supervising his visits to the kids. He comes to see the kids regularly now. But I wonder why now? What stopped him in the past? He asked for counceling and claimed that I will surely decline it, but I said I would go just to see how far he can go with the lies. In the meantime he got himself a new girlfriend and already introduced her to his parents. So, why does he want counceling? Only to look good in court? The lady from child services keeps telling me how much " he loves me". He cried in front of her that he wants his family back. How can one put on such a show? I mean he surely deserves an Oscar for his performance. It's hard for me to think it's all just an act in order to get custody of our son ( to avoid paying child support). My question is: what can I say during counceling? I want to bring up the abuse, the other woman. If he lies, what's the point of counceling? Or just I just decline it?