My wife and I have been married for 13 years. We have been together for almost 20 years. Prior to her, I was married and my first wife cheated on me, causing our divorce. My wife plays this online game where she interacts with other people online. Occasionally, she takes it outside the game by way of giving some of the people she meets personal contact information, ie phone number, social media pages and such. More often than not, these are guys. She says she tells them initially she is happily married but still does it. When I react, she says I'm being controlling. My thought is that these guys should feel weird about contacting a married woman as a friend outside of the game, because I would feel weird talking to a married woman that my wife didn't know about, although I am saying that as a married guy and most of these guys are single. Beyond this action, I don't really have any reason to suspect anything but I get these flashbacks of what my first wife used to do, which was similar and it's like ptsd reaction to it. I want to do all that I can do to remain married to her because I absolutely love her. I feel that saying too much more to her would make her feel I'm controlling but I also don't want to seem like I don't care what she is doing.