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I may be posting this in the wrong section but I've been a little confused with my husband's action these past 3 weeks.
A little background, married 20 years, 4 kids. He was having a EA/PA with his hs school gf for 8 months before I found out. Kicked him out and served him papers.
We were not on speaking terms and argued every time we tried to talk. Anyways, it all started with my birthday. He showed up with my favorite flowers and a tiny cake. He gave me several hugs and the last one, he said "Happy Birthday, I love you." It was a shocker, but i let that go.
Little stuff here and there since then. I can't remember exactly what they were, but it was stuff that kinda made me wonder what the heck was going on with him.
Yesterday, he came over to see the kids and he hugged me (been doing that a lot these past 3 weeks) and was stroking my arms saying that he doesn't like arguing with me and that he was looking at old pictures of us the night before. He said, "We used to get along so well." I replied, "Yes, we did until I found out you were fooling around." I don't ever hug him back and I don't look at him. I can't...I get sick to my stomach when I see his face. I've lost all respect for him. To top all this yesterday, he STAYED for dinner! He hasn't done that since June!
What i'm confused with is why is he making an attempt to be nice now? Is it the roller coaster thing cheaters go through? Is his AP not working out? I am not ready to let him back in my life and right now, I don't want to work anything out with him IF that is what he's trying to do.
I want to know, have any of you gone thru this? What is going on? How should I read this? I'm staying strong and not letting all this make me weak. I'm pretty sure he's still with his OW btw.
A little background, married 20 years, 4 kids. He was having a EA/PA with his hs school gf for 8 months before I found out. Kicked him out and served him papers.
We were not on speaking terms and argued every time we tried to talk. Anyways, it all started with my birthday. He showed up with my favorite flowers and a tiny cake. He gave me several hugs and the last one, he said "Happy Birthday, I love you." It was a shocker, but i let that go.
Little stuff here and there since then. I can't remember exactly what they were, but it was stuff that kinda made me wonder what the heck was going on with him.
Yesterday, he came over to see the kids and he hugged me (been doing that a lot these past 3 weeks) and was stroking my arms saying that he doesn't like arguing with me and that he was looking at old pictures of us the night before. He said, "We used to get along so well." I replied, "Yes, we did until I found out you were fooling around." I don't ever hug him back and I don't look at him. I can't...I get sick to my stomach when I see his face. I've lost all respect for him. To top all this yesterday, he STAYED for dinner! He hasn't done that since June!
What i'm confused with is why is he making an attempt to be nice now? Is it the roller coaster thing cheaters go through? Is his AP not working out? I am not ready to let him back in my life and right now, I don't want to work anything out with him IF that is what he's trying to do.
I want to know, have any of you gone thru this? What is going on? How should I read this? I'm staying strong and not letting all this make me weak. I'm pretty sure he's still with his OW btw.