I am a tad confused by my STBXWs actions or lack thereof - she is living with another guy in a place 1000 miles away from me and I want a divorce to move on with my life. I have not seen her in over 7 months and yet she will not sign divorce papers. In my jurisdiction you have to be separated 1 year before a divorce can be finalized unless there is an agreement or infidelity (which I would be forced to prove). Yet she won't sign the divorce papers. I know most would say she is cake-eating but there is no cake to be had. I'm gone and never to return and she is living with someone else why does she not just sign the papers? I'm confused.