Not a competition, but protection/self-preservation.I wanted to thank everyone again for all the advice and support. This is an awesome site with valuable information and insight.
There is one thing I did not mention that I found strange. Each of my wife’s affair partners was or is married may with families at home.
Does she feel it is some sort of competitive game? A challenge of some sort?
A woman who has an affair with a married man my think she can steal him by letting the other wife know he's sleeping with her. But she know this risk of exposure works both ways.
Should the affair turn sour and she become vindictive, she may wish to expose to the other wife as revenge. But again, that risk runs both ways.
It's like being prepared for nuclear war. As long as there's the threat of MAD (Mutually Assured Destruction), neither will launch such a volley.
This is why men who cheat often choose a married man with whom to cheat. She's just attracting that sort.