Ok... So I'm not sure what the hell I should do. Ill try to summarize since I'm on a iPhone typing. My wife of 6 years (been around for 10 years) split about 4 months ago. I was never told the reason other than her making things about me much more worse than they really were (blame shifting, I see it now). I had caught her "talking" to a co worker (guy) on Facebook about a month before she left, said it was nothing, no feelings, just needed someone to talk too, ya know, all that crap they all say at first. Month later she leaves for a night, comes back for two weeks to try to work it out, but refuses to sleep in the same room/touch/even look at me half the time, all the while telling me ill never change and I'm a pos, etc, etc. after 2 weeks of that I told her to pack her sh** and get out. After weeks of reeling in sadness I start doing some digging, turns out she was talking and skypeing with this guy every night during her trying to work it out phase, I confronted her and she still said he was only a friend. Fast forward through a lot of investigation and court and custody battles. The guy gets out of rehab, he moves in with her and they are now "serious". I won't deny the fact that I have since started seeing women also, but I can't stand that I'm still in love with this woman and want my family back. I know she doesn't give a rats a** about me, she tried to take my kids away and get child support (she failed horribly) she tried to make me believe I was the one who caused our marriage and family to fall into shambles, when in reality I may not have been perfect, but I treated her better than any man she ever had ANY kind of relationship with. She didn't even have a father, so I think she pinned her daddy issues on me. Anyway... I'm trying to look at this objectively, and not with my emotions. I know I still love her, I would go to MC if I thought she would be serious, our kids deserve a real family. I know she never will though, and I almost got into a fist fight with the OM twice so far, so I know he monitors her. He won't even let her drop/pick up kids to/from me without him being there. Divorce is filed, I won custody and child support. But I know deep down I don't want this. I want my family to work, but the I have to remind myself that she won't allow that, because through all the lies and deceit, her friend(who did the same to her husband 6 months before) and the OM have convinced her that I've held her down all this time and I only wanted to be on control... Bull****
Sad part is this OM is draining her financially (no car, license, job) because his alcohol/drug addiction landed him in jail/rehab during the initial split between her and I and he lost everything, so now he's using her. It's pathetic. Wtf are some people thinking?!?!
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Sad part is this OM is draining her financially (no car, license, job) because his alcohol/drug addiction landed him in jail/rehab during the initial split between her and I and he lost everything, so now he's using her. It's pathetic. Wtf are some people thinking?!?!
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