For awhile now my wife and I have been having some problems in our marriage. It originally started out by her taking everything out on me because of her best friend passed away and she started to have medical issues. After awhile it started to take a toll on me and I would shut down and wasn't there as emotionally as I should of been. I then recently found out my wife has been having an affair for the past few months and it absolutely devastates me and she said she wants to end it but she cant because she keeps going back to him. She still hasn't said she was sorry or took any responsibility for what she's doing. She even says they're in "love." I tried to talk to her about us and everything but she says it pushes her away even more. Here sister even tried to talk to her and she pushed her sister away as well. My wife is very smart and typically thinks logically. However, she's been hanging around with people who abuse pills, drugs, and even had my wife cover up one of her friends affairs. She has done 3 stupid things in her life (this being one) and every time she's done something stupid is when she's been in a lot of stress because of work (Full Time), school (going for her MBA part time), and most important many medications. We talked about why I have been emotionally detached and I know this is why she's been seeing another guy. She's even confessed a few days ago she's been a pathological liar. We both are currently seeking counseling (for our previous stated issues) and she is moving out to think about where her life is going and what she wants in life. However, I know the moment she moves out she'll be back with him. This is not my wife's typical thinking pattern, I know this is not who she really is, and I know this isn't the person she wants to be. She's been really stressed out with work, school, and on many medication some of which cause depression. In the past we've said hurtful things to each other in which we both apologized for because we didn't mean them. She told me that now when she looks back she sees all the bad things that has happened in the past years and doesn't see the good. I realize now I've been emotionally detached and she realizes now she's been verbally abusive and that's why were seeking counseling. Even though we don't like the topics we have been talking about our conversations have been great. I truly feel like were reconnecting again. However, I'm scared, confused, and heartbroken and don't know what to do. Please give some good advice. Thank you.