Let me start with why I snooped. Normally I'm against that, but since Jan., he had been acting different, wanting sex less, claiming it was stress at work, getting more distant from me. Right before I snooped, we were getting better, but I just had a nagging feeling and I just felt I should. I just had a gut feeling I'd find something, and I did. I just really don't like the fact that I don't think he would have owned up to doing it ever if I hadn't found out. So I'm wondering what else I don't know.
I did calmly retalk to him about it recently, because I confronted him a couple months ago about it. Both of us were upset and not in the best state of mind, so we put it off for a bit to calm down and figure things out. Recently he did say it was just a curiosity. We did calmly talk and have a very nice talk where we both opened up. But I just don't know if he's fully telling the truth and I have no idea if it's normal for straight men to be curious about such a thing.