Hello everyone - my husband and I have been married for 8 years and have a wonderful 3 year old daughter. We work different shifts and have my mom help out so we don't have to put her in daycare. My husband works 12-8am or 4-12am and has rotating days off. I work four 10 hour days with Wednesday and weekends off. It was never a perfect situation but it worked ok. We can usually have a date night once every 5 weeks and are lucky enough to vacation together without our daughter for a few days once or twice a year. While that sounds wonderful, my issues always revolved around the time outside of those 10-13 days per year: never having couple time with my husband, personal time for myself, etc. I love the time we spend together by ourselves AND as a family with our daughter though it seems that recently these times are few and far between. My husband does work hard and is a great father but I often think that he disregards my feelings on our situation and thinks that nothing can be done about. We argue more than ever and lately it seems that I feel better when he's not around because I'm not reminded of him. I just seem to disconnect and detach when I'm alone and then when we do get together, it's great until I realize that for the next several weeks it's back to the grind. The same issues always come up and I'm about ready to crack. I guess we're going to try counseling, I just don't know how much it will help. I'm thinking that since I feel better when he's not there, it would just be better if we would separate. Anyone else deal with these sorts of issues? Any advice? Does marriage counseling actually work?