Good Morning Everyone,
First post. First everything. I don't know who to talk to about this, I'm at a complete and utter loss.
My wife wants to go through with a separation and than ultimately a divorce.
We have been married for 1 year though we have been together a total of 5 years. We have a 2 year old boy who I love more than words can say.
The ongoing problem and reason for the divorce is my family, in particular my mother. It seems as though my wife and mother cannot get along. My mother is a very difficult personality and very difficult to get along with. On the most recent battle with my mother and wife I was supposed to step up to the plate and let my mother know that she can no longer treat my wife this way and etc and so forth as her little digs and comments hurt my wife and causes us to argue. Of course for me this was easier said than done as I respect my family a great deal. I grew up with my mother in this regard and I just got used to it. It bothers me, but I shrug it off, my wife cannot do the same.
This struggle between my wife and mother has been going on for awhile now and it has not been the first issue of argument for us.
My wife has a difficult personality as well. Very stubborn, quick to anger, and verbally abusive.
Just recently my wife has had enough and said that we are better off going our separate ways as this problem will never go away and she will not deal with it. She said that I should have manned up and not be a, 'female genitalia'. She told me that I have let her down and have let down my son and that she was very disappointed in me. That I chose this and have to live with the consequences.
Folks, I can tell you from the bottom of my heart I love my wife unconditionally. I am in law enforcement and I know the strain shift work can have on a marriage. I do not want to leave my wife and my son. I am willing to do anything and everything for my family. We have made many sacrifices for the family already.
I am completely lost as to what to do. I begin crying when I think about leaving my beautiful son and begin to bawl when I than think about leaving my wife.
I feel as though my world has crumbled, I have no want to carry on. I have nothing but my family, it means more to me than anything on this earth.
What do I do? I want to make this work so much but I don't think my wife wants any part of it?
I don't know what to do...
Do I stay in the home or move out?
What happens to my son?
My wife does not work full-time, I do? What happens with alimony?
Child support?
I have so many emotions running through me I feel like I'm going to have a breakdown.
Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
First post. First everything. I don't know who to talk to about this, I'm at a complete and utter loss.
My wife wants to go through with a separation and than ultimately a divorce.
We have been married for 1 year though we have been together a total of 5 years. We have a 2 year old boy who I love more than words can say.
The ongoing problem and reason for the divorce is my family, in particular my mother. It seems as though my wife and mother cannot get along. My mother is a very difficult personality and very difficult to get along with. On the most recent battle with my mother and wife I was supposed to step up to the plate and let my mother know that she can no longer treat my wife this way and etc and so forth as her little digs and comments hurt my wife and causes us to argue. Of course for me this was easier said than done as I respect my family a great deal. I grew up with my mother in this regard and I just got used to it. It bothers me, but I shrug it off, my wife cannot do the same.
This struggle between my wife and mother has been going on for awhile now and it has not been the first issue of argument for us.
My wife has a difficult personality as well. Very stubborn, quick to anger, and verbally abusive.
Just recently my wife has had enough and said that we are better off going our separate ways as this problem will never go away and she will not deal with it. She said that I should have manned up and not be a, 'female genitalia'. She told me that I have let her down and have let down my son and that she was very disappointed in me. That I chose this and have to live with the consequences.
Folks, I can tell you from the bottom of my heart I love my wife unconditionally. I am in law enforcement and I know the strain shift work can have on a marriage. I do not want to leave my wife and my son. I am willing to do anything and everything for my family. We have made many sacrifices for the family already.
I am completely lost as to what to do. I begin crying when I think about leaving my beautiful son and begin to bawl when I than think about leaving my wife.
I feel as though my world has crumbled, I have no want to carry on. I have nothing but my family, it means more to me than anything on this earth.
What do I do? I want to make this work so much but I don't think my wife wants any part of it?
I don't know what to do...
Do I stay in the home or move out?
What happens to my son?
My wife does not work full-time, I do? What happens with alimony?
Child support?
I have so many emotions running through me I feel like I'm going to have a breakdown.
Any insight would be greatly appreciated.