My wife and I have been together for 7 years and married for 4. I am 31 yrs old and she is 27.We seem to be drifting further apart from each other emotionally every passing year of our marriage.One of my reasons for not feeling as close to her as I once did is because of our ever declining sex life.It seems to have taken a plunge after the birth of our only child together 4 years ago.It went from two to three times a week to once every 3-4 weeks after her birth.We are currently only intimate every 9-10 weeks.She says it is because of a decline in sex drive but dropped a hint last night that it may be because she hasn't forgiven me for things I have done in our relationship.She remembers every wrong I have committed and brings it up constantly.The worst thing that I have done in our marriage is upon receiving the mail one day I tore up some enrollment papers from a preschool that my wife was interested in having our child attend.I did this for two reasons because I felt that we could ill afford yet another monthly payment and because I feel whatever she needs to know to get into kindergarten can be easily taught by us.I spend time with flashcards and books teaching her but my wife says she won't because it is too frustrating getting her to pay attention.She is a smart little girl and picks up on things as fast as most kids her age.I fully realize that I should not have thrown these papers away and it was simply a dumb move on my part.I can understand her anger at me for this but I have apologized a hundred times for this.She also blames me for not getting up enough at night with our daughter when she was first born.I admit that I was only getting up with her a third of the time and my wife was doing the rest.We both worked at the same auto manufacturing plant at the time on the same shift.I was working about 50-55 hours a week and she was getting 40-45.I am a supervisor there and felt I could not get less sleep than I was and still perfom decently at work.She had a basic assembly job that was not that physically taxing.I basically thought I was doing my fair share at home given the amount of hours I worked and much higher income brought into the home.Well, I guess she doesn't feel that way.Well,before I write a short autobiography I guess I should get to the point.My wife has said nothing about getting a divorce but I don't know if I can continue to be hurt by her lack of affection and unwillingness to forgive and forget.I am making an honest effort to change some things about me and heal her wounds I just don't know if I can ever live up to her "ideal husband standards".The closeness isn't there as it once was, but I still love her very much.I would greatly appreciate any feedback on this!