Yes, the final decree was six months ago. I never had any intention of trying to "work it out" with my XW. "Working it out" meant accepting that another man ****ed my wife while I was deployed, and folks, That. Is. Never. Going. To. Happen. In truth, I have no idea what would make any man willing to accept that, but that I guess is the mystery of the human condition.Welcome to TAM. There are many current/former military posters on this site. I read your entire story on S/I. So how are you doing lately CDR? I assume the D was finalized and the assets split evenly.