Hello people,
Mine maybe is similar to a thousand stories you may have heard read, but I'm so desperate I'll tell it anyway.
I have been married for two years and since the first day, I noticed that communication problems would be constant, but thought that I'd be able to manage and not fall for them. My wife has never been the "attentive" "caring" type,the one who is really worried about how your day has been,or about your being happy at any given situation; she has never taken interest in any of my activities, unless it meant a change that would affect her comfort. As I mentioned, I was aware of that, and tried to (very tactfully, I assure) talk to her about that, and about how it affected me. In the beginning, she showed some worry at the prospect of losing me, and made a real effort to "change" and be more caring". Well, it turns out that it hasn't been so anymore, and that she has become a real nag about every little thing in her/our life. We can't have a conversation about my day at my job without her being sarcastic or suspicious at the most ridiculous things (btw conversation started by me), I can't say anything lightly critical when she's driving for instance, without her being instantly enraged at my comments. In short, she has no patience and good will towards me.
Well, as I said, I have been trying to be flexible in many ways -swapped carres so I could have a better perspective, have really upped our living standards, to please her, have helped her go back to college and do wjat she likes..... I have tried to do my best, and forgot to take mylself into consideration in the process..... however, I grew tired.... exhausted.... I can't stand not being loved and minimally cared for anymore..... But I also would like to hear someone..... and maybe come across an idea.... I don't know.... I just need some help.... anything.
Sorry for the long post!
K.
Mine maybe is similar to a thousand stories you may have heard read, but I'm so desperate I'll tell it anyway.
I have been married for two years and since the first day, I noticed that communication problems would be constant, but thought that I'd be able to manage and not fall for them. My wife has never been the "attentive" "caring" type,the one who is really worried about how your day has been,or about your being happy at any given situation; she has never taken interest in any of my activities, unless it meant a change that would affect her comfort. As I mentioned, I was aware of that, and tried to (very tactfully, I assure) talk to her about that, and about how it affected me. In the beginning, she showed some worry at the prospect of losing me, and made a real effort to "change" and be more caring". Well, it turns out that it hasn't been so anymore, and that she has become a real nag about every little thing in her/our life. We can't have a conversation about my day at my job without her being sarcastic or suspicious at the most ridiculous things (btw conversation started by me), I can't say anything lightly critical when she's driving for instance, without her being instantly enraged at my comments. In short, she has no patience and good will towards me.
Well, as I said, I have been trying to be flexible in many ways -swapped carres so I could have a better perspective, have really upped our living standards, to please her, have helped her go back to college and do wjat she likes..... I have tried to do my best, and forgot to take mylself into consideration in the process..... however, I grew tired.... exhausted.... I can't stand not being loved and minimally cared for anymore..... But I also would like to hear someone..... and maybe come across an idea.... I don't know.... I just need some help.... anything.
Sorry for the long post!
K.