I have been with my partner in a distance relationship for nearly 3 years. I moved over to live with him 4 months ago. He has 2 daughters from his previous marriage aged 19 and 21 both at university. They have been around in our house most of those 4 months as they have been on holidays from uni. They never lifted a finger once to do anything around the house and basically treated it like a hotel. The youngest daughter is open and friendly we get on well, there has been some hostility from the older daughter who is very possessive of her dad and his time and totally monopolises him. I have 2 sons aged 17 and 21. It is my 'turn' to have my youngest son for Christmas,- he has lived with his dad for the last year abroad. However, now my partner has turned around and said it is best that if my son is to be with me for christmas that I take him to my mums - who lives far away - as it was 'awkward' with his girls when he came to stay recently for a few days. He is very quiet and a bit shy but polite, kind and easy going. His daughters are very outgoing and noisy, so I could see and feel it was awkward at times. However, I am devastated that it means I cant spend Christmas with my partner if Im to have my son, and also that he has asked me to be elsewhere at Christmas. His worry is that if his daughters find it awkward that they will go and spend Christmas day with their Mum (if my son is here) and not with him so naturally he wants christmas with his own daughters. I am very hurt by it all, particularly as I was supposed to have xmas with his last year (when we lived distantly) and his daughters made it all too difficult for that to happen as they were worried about their mother etc. Am I wrong in thinking that it is very unfair and wrong for my partner to ask this of me..?