My stbxw moved out of the house a few months ag. We have a 3 year old we share 50/50 custody of. We have no legal agreements yet. She has chosen to waitress 2 nights a week and go on food stamps, is there a benefit to this for child support? From what I've read, she would be considered voluntarily under employed since she has a degree and is able bodied.
She has been recording our phone calls, plays a very passive/aggressive behavior role and is excellent at it. She moved in with some friends who have been very culpable in our split.
She lies so regularly I think it's just compulsive now, maybe pathological.
When she left she accused me of being emotionally abusive and then joined several dating sites a few days later without telling me. From some comments she made I figured out she might be interested in women at which point I asked her and now she says she is gay. She immediatly had ,e sign a statement/agreement that we could see other people and i wouldnt accuse her of adultry.
Our marriage counselor who is now my therapist told me that she is just trying to escape responsibility and the only time he saw me get angry was when she was distorting facts and attempting to elude accountability. That was a giant relief as she is very cunning and manipulative.
She doesn't pay rent and she has been skipping shifts at work, I'm picking up what is suppose to be her share of per school and a few other things
I found the strength to stand up to her now and will no longer be giving her any money until we have child support agreement in place. We don't want to waste money on court or lawyers although I've consulted several and feel confident she can't contest custody because I've been such an involved good father. She is all about money but we have little assets and just the house
I don't trust her for a second, I'm not attracted to her physically or emotionally and when that transformation took place, I was able to see her for what she is
Any insights or advice would be great
She has been recording our phone calls, plays a very passive/aggressive behavior role and is excellent at it. She moved in with some friends who have been very culpable in our split.
She lies so regularly I think it's just compulsive now, maybe pathological.
When she left she accused me of being emotionally abusive and then joined several dating sites a few days later without telling me. From some comments she made I figured out she might be interested in women at which point I asked her and now she says she is gay. She immediatly had ,e sign a statement/agreement that we could see other people and i wouldnt accuse her of adultry.
Our marriage counselor who is now my therapist told me that she is just trying to escape responsibility and the only time he saw me get angry was when she was distorting facts and attempting to elude accountability. That was a giant relief as she is very cunning and manipulative.
She doesn't pay rent and she has been skipping shifts at work, I'm picking up what is suppose to be her share of per school and a few other things
I found the strength to stand up to her now and will no longer be giving her any money until we have child support agreement in place. We don't want to waste money on court or lawyers although I've consulted several and feel confident she can't contest custody because I've been such an involved good father. She is all about money but we have little assets and just the house
I don't trust her for a second, I'm not attracted to her physically or emotionally and when that transformation took place, I was able to see her for what she is
Any insights or advice would be great
