Love is an investment. It's a verb. An action. You can choose to give it or not to give it.
I don't love my ex husband. I've withdrawn all the feelings associated with love when it comes to him. Every day I choose to deposit those feelings into my H. The things I do for him, the loving words I say to him... all things I choose.
I think of a simple question and then act on it. What have I done for my marriage today? If I want to cultivate our relationship, I have to make an effort to do so, grass doesn't stay green on it's own, it requires care. I approach my relationship the same way.
I don't love my ex husband. I've withdrawn all the feelings associated with love when it comes to him. Every day I choose to deposit those feelings into my H. The things I do for him, the loving words I say to him... all things I choose.
I think of a simple question and then act on it. What have I done for my marriage today? If I want to cultivate our relationship, I have to make an effort to do so, grass doesn't stay green on it's own, it requires care. I approach my relationship the same way.