It was kind of a "you're withholding sex from me" talk. I've been in a flirtatious mood with my wife all morning. She dressed up and looked great. I was hugging her and kissing her. My child saw me hugging her. But then my child was downstairs and I said to my wife how my new therapist could not believe how little we have sex and said I must be #@$ off a lot. My wife said our child could hear us. I said "can you hear me? My child said yes. The child was downstairs playing.Sex in what terms?
An 11 year old is at the age when they are learning the "facts of life". They come to the realization that their parents have/had sex, and where they came from (although they don't like to dwell on it regarding their parents).
So I think that how the sex discussion related to the parents' marriage is important. If the discussion is "we can't wait to do X when little Sally is at Grandma's", that's going to be less distressing to the child than a tension-filled "you're withholding sex from me!" argument.
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Wow! I love that saying! I believe it's true. The worst thing is to make something a forbidding fruit.Remember, 11 year olds BECOME who you teach them to be. Hide something, and he'll grow to covet it. Explain something, and he'll grow to understand it.
Thank you for the link. I'll look into it. I know porn has always been a problem with me. I don't want that problem passed on.If you feel that anything you said might cause a problem for the child some sort of explanation may be necessary. If you feel all is well, just let it go but make sure child is not in earshot in the future.
Not sure how you feel about addressing the subject of sex with children in general but link below has some advice.
Talking to your children/teenagers about Porn?
A wise mother you are!The WORST thing you want to do is make a big deal about it.
That said, he is old enough for you to start having talks with him about what life is going to be about - including relationships, sex, honesty, integrity...
Remember, 11 year olds BECOME who you teach them to be. Hide something, and he'll grow to covet it. Explain something, and he'll grow to understand it.