I'm 28 years old and the only man I've ever loved just doesn't seem to be enough for me anymore. He sees no problems in our marriage but I am never happy. I have been with him for twelve years of my life and married for nearly four. Things were okay when we got married but not great. I guess we have always struggled financially as he is not so great with handeling the finances. I have been in and out of school as to try and make more money. I wonder if he will ever accept responsibility and finish his degree. He makes me feel guilty about that too. He's borderline addicted to video gaming. We have a virtually platonic relationship with hardly any sex. We had a huge fight recently because I went looking through our phone records and bank account and didn't like our situation. We decided to work on our finances and relationship but he won't go to couseling. Nothing has changed and I realize it's only been a month but I am exhausted. I want to have fun and live a happy life with a husband who wants me. Lately he's been talking about our plans to have kids next year and all I have been thinking about is our plans to divorce after the holidays. Am I wrong to want to check out after just three years of financial/sex issues in marriage? I feel like I've aged 20 years in the past 3. Sometimes I don't even recognize myself in the mirror.