1. Sexual feelings for another
The fundamental drive for humans is to have lots of sex (i.e. reproduce). Even the Bible's first commandment in Genesis is "Be fruitful and multiply."
I suppose it all depends on what your definition of good is because we all preceive things differently which could explain a little bit as to why DS cheat. The LS may thing everything is good and the WS may think it's absolutely horrible.
Dig deeper. You know.In the ten months since d-day, I've learned more about infidelity from being on this forum and reading books that I ever cared to know. Like many of you, I now consider myself somewhat of an expert on the subject compared to the average person. However, I still for the life of me don't know why my ex chose to betray me and abandon her kids. I have theories and conjectures but I still don't know.
Good Points.I suppose it all depends on what your definition of good is because we all preceive things differently which could explain a little bit as to why DS cheat. The LS may thing everything is good and the WS may think it's absolutely horrible.
I would say that the majority of these situations start as an EA because the WS decides to complain to someone about something in particular that they don't like thats going on in their marriage when they should be talking with their S about it.
Of course the WS won't complain about everything their S does for them whether it be paying all the bills on time or making sure they have a roof over their head and food in the stomachs or taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, preparing meals.
No they never complain or even mention all the good in their M and their S. Can you imagine, "I just hate that he wakes up every morning to get up and go to work, it's so terrible" or "do you know what she does every night, she makes me food and does the laundry, it's annoying". I guess it's a lot easier to focus on the bad then it is to appreciate all the good.
From my perspective I would say they do it because they are looking for greenier grass, problem with that theory is they usually tend to down-grade and not just by a little, they go from like a modern day 4 door car that's pretty nice to like a 2 door geo metro.
I suppose the fog turns them into complete morons and they lose all surival skills and think from an emotionally selfish view and toss all logic out the window.