My husband and i have a child together, almost 2 and i recently had an intimate moment with an old flame whihc i never thought i would ever do. my husband and i have been having a lot of problems financially and emotionally. i have felt that my life has been stripped away. we have a 15 yr age gap between us and he has older children, which i have always found to be rude and disrespectufl. i have changed myself for this guy and want my youth back. he has shown no interest, but recently an old flame is back and i thought there was nothing there, but there is something and we slept together one night, i regretted that. i stopped it and couldn't go on. i know my husband loves me so much, but i feel that he just can't give me what i need and is controlling my life. i think he wants me to continue to be this person who is controlled by him,,but i don't want that. i told him i thought of separating and he couldn't udnerstand why.......he thought everything was fine. we are now in counseling...............i don't know what to do. i haven't been intimate w/the other guy b/c i don't want ot make things worse. my husband has no clue but i think he suspects something.....i just want to give my daughter a good life and not live on watching every penny i make. it's a long story, but i had to admit this to someone who has no clue about me.