As I have read some of the post on internet issues, I see that alot of the problems have been from one or both spending to much time in the computer world...
For me it was a game called Yoville...It was alot of fun...I wish I could still play, but I know I can't...
This game is in real time and you can chat openly with other players..You can make it as private as you want...
This makes me want to see what game or site it was that caused you, your heartbreak.
OMG! I had a meltdown over this same issue, this same game!!! To give you some quick background H cheated on me and D-Day was a year ago. Had nothing to do with virtual games this was the real thing she lived down the street. So that's over we are recovering and I introduced H to this game. He was in one of the public areas and chatting with a lot of people. He's pretty funny so he made a lot of people laugh and had a good time with this. He didn't spend too much time there, far less than me.
But to build his crew, he would allow people to add him as a friend or he would add them. One girl had 300+ contacts and she really knew how to play. I didn't have a problem with him adding buddies but when you add people as a friend, they post their picture they are real people.
You can read messages people leave your crew by going to their profile so when I saw he had a stranger added I did that (keep in mind I wouldn't have done that but he cheated before..) and he was flirting with her. She lives across the country so he felt it ok because this was an "avatar not really me" and she lived across the country. It wasn't explicit sexually but it was definately flirty and he would write "disappointed you weren't online last night".. and stuff like that.
When I found out, he was out of town and out of cell range doing a job in a rural area I could not confront him. I wrote to her and told her to stay the hell away from my H (probably very immature but it made me feel better) and texted him something pretty awful. Finally I remembered he gave me an emergency number, a landline I could use. So I called it at 1:30am and he was not even awake and I launched in to him. He was so confused and finally figured it out and calmed me down.
As I look back now, I totally overreacted. Something that I could have cared less about if he'd never had an affair. So I sat and thought about it and realized why I was so upset. When his EA began (which turned physical) I KNEW it and I buried my head in the sand until I couldn't stand it and confronted him and he denied it and I keep thinking that I was such a wuss for letting him make a fool out of me for about 8 months! And I would never let that happen again.
He said that made a lot of sense he completely apologized and stopped playing any games at all. I even told him that I overreacted and it was fine but he won't do it, he said that it was not worth his marriage. I feel guilty, I still play! I don't chat though, never was my thing except to my friends. We have a lot of fun with this..