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How many nurses have you dated? Perhaps an individual's nature gravitates toward certain occupations?
I would definitely agree that it could be any career that creates a high number of opportunities for there to be "opportunities" .

That puts the odds higher even for those rigorously monogamous persons. Because face it, both sexes can do stupid things if not dedicated to a M. Really, even after a dumb temp fight with a spouse, the right conditions may tempt one. Right time right place with higher opportunities realistically is higher chance of cheating.
 

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Y'all been watching too many soap operas and too much Gray's anatomy.
 
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There are definitely teachers and nurses who have passion for what they do. Then you have another group which I used to work with which was the I hate restaurant work so I'm going to nursing school (or get my teaching certificate) and everything will be magically better.
 

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My understanding is many healthcare workers work long hours but then have 3 days off lots of places.

Not sure what's up with the "horse owners," but I think it's funny. Everyone should have passions. It keeps them balanced. People I see on here with so many marital problems, it's often because they have nothing they're passionate about, no big interests or hobbies and just want to lock down their mate. That's not healthy, I'm sorry.
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While I was separated from my wife, I dated a bit. One of the things I noticed was there seemed to be a disproportionate amount of, health care workers, teachers and horse owners.

I reasoned this was likely because, all three had a passion that came before a relationship in terms of importance and so contributed to previous relationship breakdowns.

Now obviously this was based on a limited sample size in my area. So im prepared to accept there is no correlation. However I was curious to know if others have observed this for any or all of the above.

Or have alternative theory to explain the disproportion
Oh, I'm sure there are tons but these are some that come to mind.

Lawyers,
Traveling salesperson
Pilot,
flight attendant,
military on deployment
CEO,
stripper,
sex worker,
model
actor/actress,
musician
Certain healthcare fields
politician
Any job with a lot of travel
 

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I can only go by what I hear after chatting one-on-one with 1,000+ guys, and lots more in our discussion groups. Yes, there seems to be an interesting trend. Two things come up again and again:

1. Nurses
2. Horse ladies
 

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I haven't worked in healthcare but when single did sleep with quite a few nurses after one short hospital stay. There were multiple that followed up personally, and a couple were regulars in my bed for months.
I’ll bet that made for some interesting workplace discussions.
 

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You what? That wasn't directed at anyone in particular. Just the whole content.
I figured it was a class action. I was strangely offended so I asked if I was in the class.
I don't approve of my partners porn hobby, but that isn't usually called out here. BTW I haven't locked her down. Her consumption continues and grows near as I can tell.
 

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I figured it was a class action. I was strangely offended so I asked if I was in the class.
I don't approve of my partners porn hobby, but that isn't usually called out here. BTW I haven't locked her down. Her consumption continues and grows near as I can tell.
I wouldn't approve of a porn hobby either. Especially if there are kids in the house. I was in such a house and it definitely affected me adversely. And that was early magazine porn.
 

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While I was separated from my wife, I dated a bit. One of the things I noticed was there seemed to be a disproportionate amount of, health care workers, teachers and horse owners.

I reasoned this was likely because, all three had a passion that came before a relationship in terms of importance and so contributed to previous relationship breakdowns.

Now obviously this was based on a limited sample size in my area. So im prepared to accept there is no correlation. However I was curious to know if others have observed this for any or all of the above.

Or have alternative theory to explain the disproportion
While I do agree with @oldshirt in that slotting all of the people in a give profession as being poor partners is wrong, I will admit that I've noticed this as well. I've been in a long-term relationship with a high school teacher/vice principal, and was married to a university professor. Neither of them seemed to be able to prioritize things or make room in their lives for a relationship given their workload that they weren't able to organize. Both men made awful partners, mostly though because they didn't know how to organize what they needed to do with the other things in their lives (three cheers for work-life balance!). And, for that reason, I would never date another man in education. If I had just had the one experience, then maybe, but it was two.

That being said, I have a couple girlfriends who are teachers, and happily married. They also prioritize their work versus their non-work life though, as well as my nurse and doctor girlfriends. The doctor, obviously a little less, given call shifts and emergencies, but she does well at work-life balance. I've never even known or dated a horse owner!

All that being said, I think it comes down to the person, themselves, and how they look at life, work and relationships.
 

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Again, the health care and educational fields combined probably account for the majority of women in the workforce in general. So it just stands to reason that a percentage of them will be cheaters and a percentage of them will be single on the dating market and a percentage of those will promiscuous etc etc.

But there will also be a percentage of them in healthy, happy relationships as well.

The same could also be said in regards to female union steelworkers. A certain percentage of those will be cheaters and a certain percentage in happy, healthy marriages etc....... it’s just that there a way fewer of them so you don’t hear about them much and they don’t make trashy tv shows about them (ie Grey’s Anatomy) or silly porn motifs about them in mini skirts with white fishnet stocking and high heels.

The reality is infidelity and promiscuity and broken marriages and relationships as well as solid, healthy relationships exist wherever males and females coexist together.

Various cultures have tried segregating men and women to the point that women are virtual prisoners in their own homes and not allowed to go to school or obtain employment or even leave the house without a male relative in escort and guess what??? There is still sex and infidelity taking place there.

If covering women from head to toe in bedsheets and locking them up in there houses doesn’t prevent sex/infidelity, then no workplace that employs both genders is going to sex and infidelity taking place regardless of the profession.
 

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While I do agree with @oldshirt in that slotting all of the people in a give profession as being poor partners is wrong, I will admit that I've noticed this as well. I've been in a long-term relationship with a high school teacher/vice principal, and was married to a university professor. Neither of them seemed to be able to prioritize things or make room in their lives for a relationship given their workload that they weren't able to organize. Both men made awful partners, mostly though because they didn't know how to organize what they needed to do with the other things in their lives (three cheers for work-life balance!). And, for that reason, I would never date another man in education. If I had just had the one experience, then maybe, but it was two.

That being said, I have a couple girlfriends who are teachers, and happily married. They also prioritize their work versus their non-work life though, as well as my nurse and doctor girlfriends. The doctor, obviously a little less, given call shifts and emergencies, but she does well at work-life balance. I've never even known or dated a horse owner!

All that being said, I think it comes down to the person, themselves, and how they look at life, work and relationships.
While I agree that everyone is different, you naturally take other evidence into your assessment when making a decision about partners. Smoking, drinking, life style in general, why wouldn't vocation come into it, if there is evidence to suggest they might be not a good fit?
 

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Again, the health care and educational fields combined probably account for the majority of women in the workforce in general. So it just stands to reason that a percentage of them will be cheaters and a percentage of them will be single on the dating market and a percentage of those will promiscuous etc etc.

But there will also be a percentage of them in healthy, happy relationships as well.

The same could also be said in regards to female union steelworkers. A certain percentage of those will be cheaters and a certain percentage in happy, healthy marriages etc....... it’s just that there a way fewer of them so you don’t hear about them much and they don’t make trashy tv shows about them (ie Grey’s Anatomy) or silly porn motifs about them in mini skirts with white fishnet stocking and high heels.

The reality is infidelity and promiscuity and broken marriages and relationships as well as solid, healthy relationships exist wherever males and females coexist together.

Various cultures have tried segregating men and women to the point that women are virtual prisoners in their own homes and not allowed to go to school or obtain employment or even leave the house without a male relative in escort and guess what??? There is still sex and infidelity taking place there.

If covering women from head to toe in bedsheets and licking them up in there houses doesn’t prevent sex/infidelity, then no workplace that employs both genders is going to sex and infidelity taking place regardless of the profession.
How do you explain horse ownership then?
 
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