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Need help, folks. I've found a great forensic data recovery specialist in my city to (hopefully) get back the 1,300 deleted texts between my wife and her "just friends" male co-worker.

I'm not a social media user, so I have no idea which apps she might be using to deepen their "friendship".

My question is, other than the deleted texts, what else should I ask this guy to look for on her phone?
 

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If you have Sprint/Tmobile, you can see text activity for the month once the billing cycle ends. Not text content, but numbers and times. That should give an idea of frequency of deletions, because deleting from the phone doesn't change the online log. If you can see a large number of deletions to a suspect number, bingo.
 

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We use AT&T and I was able to download ALL of her texting activity for the past 12 months. That's how I know there were 1,300+ texts between my wife and her friend.

I dumped them into a spreadsheet and used the logs to destroy her "It was all just work stuff" story. The majority were after work hours/on weekends. They were particularly active on my birthday last year...72 texts that day.
 

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I'm not sure they could get anything out of the phone for some of those secret type apps (Snapchat, Facebook Messenger, etc.). If they are experts, then THEY should be able to recommend what they can do...
 

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He mentioned snapchat, instagram and Tiktok (?) and said he can get that stuff back. Are there any other apps I should ask about?

He handles the forensic data recovery for all law enforcement agencies in town. He comes highly recommended from a good friend of mine who is a retired police officer.

And, not only is his price tag way better than other places around here, he also told me he'd cut that price in half, if he couldn't recover what I need.
 

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I'm not sure they could get anything out of the phone for some of those secret type apps (Snapchat, Facebook Messenger, etc.). If they are experts, then THEY should be able to recommend what they can do...
100% agree. I'm sure this isn't their first rodeo.

Also I would think that with some apps you wouldn't need the history, just the fact she has downloaded messaging apps that her husband doesn't would be added evidence. I know Kik for example is one app people like to download then delete after they use it. You wouldn't get anything from the app itself, but she'd have a hard time explaining why she downloaded it.
 

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If what my gut is telling me is correct, she's going to have a hard time explaining A LOT of things.
 

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It sucks man. I hate that you're going through this mess. Keep yourself safe man, don't let her drag you down into any bs.

We're pulling for ya!
 

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I truly appreciate it. Can't tell you how much better I feel since I found you guys.

We're coming up on our 30th anniversary and I never dreamed I'd be in this position after all these years. The pain is overwhelming at times. But I don't feel alone and isolated anymore and, for that, I owe all of you many, many thanks.
 

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I truly appreciate it. Can't tell you how much better I feel since I found you guys.

We're coming up on our 30th anniversary and I never dreamed I'd be in this position after all these years. The pain is overwhelming at times. But I don't feel alone and isolated anymore and, for that, I owe all of you many, many thanks.
Did you get any info from her phone yet?
 

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Not yet. Just dropped the phone off yesterday and he needs a couple of days with it, so I'm not expecting to get it back until early next week.
 

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He mentioned snapchat, instagram and Tiktok (?) and said he can get that stuff back. Are there any other apps I should ask about?

He handles the forensic data recovery for all law enforcement agencies in town. He comes highly recommended from a good friend of mine who is a retired police officer.

And, not only is his price tag way better than other places around here, he also told me he'd cut that price in half, if he couldn't recover what I need.
If she has a Whatsapp App or Kik.
 

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I wondered the same thing, but even if they can’t get that info, 1300 text messages is going to be pretty damning I think.
This is true. But he asked, I figured it might help. These phones and what people choose to do with them...it's really sad.
 

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This is true. But he asked, I figured it might help. These phones and what people choose to do with them...it's really sad.
Sorry I didn’t even see the actual post you were quoting. Yes you are right. It’s a cheaters paradise with all these disappearing messaging apps.
 

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Keep in mind this is for your own satisfaction.... likely won’t make any difference in court ...... unless there is a crime in there somewhere
 
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