whatever you do, don't lie for her. if you feel like you should tell the OM's wife, then do it. and you probably should tell her. acting like everything is cool when it isn't is unforgivable, andRecently caught my wife cheating with the male of a 20 year friend couple.
Very sorry and regretful. Knew it was wrong. Wants to and willing to make amends
Should we tell our adult children? Wife's parents?
Has she owned her part in the affair? It takes two willing adults to do what they did. Has she admitted to the lies, the deceptions, betrayals?Already agreed to see counselor/therapist and said she hates OM and doesn't want to see him again
Rug sweeping doesn't work. Keeping affairs secret only allow them to continue or reignite. Read some of the stories on this forum and see the consequences of failure to properly expose.If she's genuinely sorry, and is remorseful, and willing to work to fix the marriage, and is committed to fixing the marriage, and is honest and has cut off contact and is transparent, then no need to tell anyone. I think keeping it between the two of you can make you stronger. You have to have trust to do that, and if she does all those things, you are well on your way to rebuilding trust and rebuilding the relationship.
My, my, my..... I didn't know you haven't dealt with this. And you haven't not at all.Wife has offered details and is willing to talk about it but I don't know if I want to know the details or not? Do you fool around at our house? Did you have intercourse or just do other things?
I think it is better to get it all out in the open now. How would you like it if 6 months from now you found out the had sex on the kitchen table that you eat off or in the bed that you sleep in?Wife has offered details and is willing to talk about it but I don't know if I want to know the details or not? Do you fool around at our house? Did you have intercourse or just do other things?