My MIL had a stroke 7 months ago. She is now severely handicapped (in wheel chair, can't talk well, declined cognitive/memory). My husband and I live 1.5 hours flight from her. Thanks to covid we were able to be with her since as we could work from home anywhere and we do not have kids. His siblings live further away and have kids so my husband is MIL's primary caregiver (his father passed away 10 years ago). His mother insists that she want to live in her home with a live-in aide (she can afford such service). Our lives have been evolving around her needs for the past 6 months. After 6 months in miseries being with him at his mother's house, I was so homesick that I left him at his mother's house and went back to our home. I am living alone for a month now. My husband now decides that he "needs" to spend half of his time with his mom at her home and half of his time with me at our home (1 week with her then 1 week with me). He also considers quitting his job to move to her town if he can't get his employer to allow him to work from home as he plans. I offered him to be home with me for 2 weeks and then 1 week with his mom and I will go with him but that is not good enough for him. I told him I don't want to move to her town, lose my job, and live in a rural area that I am not used to (I have always lived in big cities). I want to live my life for us, not for someone else. I told him I don't want a part-time marriage. I have had several conversations with him that throwing away his career and marriage to live for his mom is not a sound decision but he won't budge. I don't want to force him to stay in our marriage if he can't commit to it more than 75% of time. We have been together for 13 years and can't imagine we are heading to a separation. Any advice? Am I being selfish to want to live my life for myself than anyone else?