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We've been married two years now and have been together for fourteen. I love her very much and don't want to leave, but the last year has been tough for the both of us I'm sure. She got on to this health kick, which both of us do from time to time. She spends a lot of her free time at the gym. Right now I'm not in to the gym and have many other interests that keep me busy. We don't eat together anymore because she barely eats, and won't eat what I like, which isn't mcdonalds or anything, but I do like to cook and make meals for myself. That use to be a huge part of us hanging out. Now after I get home from work, if she's home(she works retail), I basically hang out working on the house or cleaning, while she's exercising or watching TV. We don't do anything together anymore. In the past, I've always initiated vacations and dates, but I guess I've lost interest. I would like it if she would, and I've told her, but she never does. She bought a car last week without even telling me about it(which is fine as far as money goes, but I can't believe she didn't even ask for my help. The other day she told me I come home, am lethargic and then go to bed. Which might be a fair perception, but I think it's more because we don't have any of the same interests really any more, and we tend to hang out in different rooms and do our own thing. It's just been going on for too long now, and I don't know what to do. Sex is also becoming rare. We don't really fight, but we do like to say mean things to each other and then walk away. We've tried talking several times lately but neither of us understands where the other is coming from. I feel she doesn't do her fair share around the house either. I asked her several times to help me outside. We have quite a large yard and requires a lot of maintenance. Outside of cleaning the pool she has never helped with anything else. God forbid I bring this up to her. Just this morning I asked her to just fill up one bag of leaves for me...any little bit would be such a big help. She's off work today, and forget putting the idea in to her head that maybe on her day off she could help around the house. I suppose this is all petty stuff, but we haven't kissed each other goodbye in the morning for over a month. She stopped six months ago, and I stopped one month ago. Any insight would be very helpful...Thanks.
We've been married two years now and have been together for fourteen. I love her very much and don't want to leave, but the last year has been tough for the both of us I'm sure. She got on to this health kick, which both of us do from time to time. She spends a lot of her free time at the gym. Right now I'm not in to the gym and have many other interests that keep me busy. We don't eat together anymore because she barely eats, and won't eat what I like, which isn't mcdonalds or anything, but I do like to cook and make meals for myself. That use to be a huge part of us hanging out. Now after I get home from work, if she's home(she works retail), I basically hang out working on the house or cleaning, while she's exercising or watching TV. We don't do anything together anymore. In the past, I've always initiated vacations and dates, but I guess I've lost interest. I would like it if she would, and I've told her, but she never does. She bought a car last week without even telling me about it(which is fine as far as money goes, but I can't believe she didn't even ask for my help. The other day she told me I come home, am lethargic and then go to bed. Which might be a fair perception, but I think it's more because we don't have any of the same interests really any more, and we tend to hang out in different rooms and do our own thing. It's just been going on for too long now, and I don't know what to do. Sex is also becoming rare. We don't really fight, but we do like to say mean things to each other and then walk away. We've tried talking several times lately but neither of us understands where the other is coming from. I feel she doesn't do her fair share around the house either. I asked her several times to help me outside. We have quite a large yard and requires a lot of maintenance. Outside of cleaning the pool she has never helped with anything else. God forbid I bring this up to her. Just this morning I asked her to just fill up one bag of leaves for me...any little bit would be such a big help. She's off work today, and forget putting the idea in to her head that maybe on her day off she could help around the house. I suppose this is all petty stuff, but we haven't kissed each other goodbye in the morning for over a month. She stopped six months ago, and I stopped one month ago. Any insight would be very helpful...Thanks.