I will try and keep it brief - haven't been happy for a number of years due to communication issues, different sex drives, husbands emotional and, sometimes, aggressive behaviour and now my husband has had an affair. I asked him to leave and he eventually did but has had several emotional breakdowns throughout all of this whereas I am being realistic and trying to be honest about the problems we had. He has now, he says, completely finished the affair and wants to move back in but I really can't decide whether to let him or not and keep swinging in how I feel about it. I know I don't love him any more and find a lot of things he does irritating, but we have two children 11 and 13 and I know he will make life very difficult if we stay separate i.e. making it difficult for me to take them away on holiday as he wants to see them every day. The children don't seem bothered about going to stay with him which makes me feel like I am pushing them out of the house each time but if he moves back in I feel we are both potentially losing the opportunity of being happy either with or without someone else. I also feel with him that it is not so much me he wants but the family and am thinking about what happens when the children are older. I know nobody can make the decision for me but I would be interested to hear what others think.