Get the book "Divorce Busting", read it.
Pay special attention to the chapter on changing the environment. You need to shake things up 'cause right now he's stuck in a place where he is very comfortable, so he does not really understand how serious this all is. After all, if it's all ok for him, what's our problem?
Look up that book she suggested.EleGirl what do you mean by shake things up? We have spoke and he has agreed to make some changes with himself to try and improve things. But it's kind of like I've heard it all before. We've made a plan but i don't have a clue how serious he is. I am afraid to write on here incase he can read it all. It would be so obvious it is me.
It is a good tip if it is what I'm thinking.