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Cliff notes of my story: Wife filed for divorce in Jan and moved out in May. Walk away wife. No affairs or violence, just two people who grew apart. Have 8 year old son. At first I tried to plead with her etc like most do and realized I only made things worse. Let her go and only talked when it involved son.
Past Monday she wants to come over and help son with homework. I made dinner. She started putting up laundry and cleaning. THought that was strange. Said she would come over Wed. to hangout. We talked for hours. Only difference this time was I did not bring up any issue from the past, she did but that was fine. I let her talk. She said she couldn't come home because it was too late and she thinks things will go back to how they were before (me not being tentative etc.). I said "I am asking you to find it in your heart to forgive me". NOrmally I just told her to forgive me or that she should forgive me etc. This time I asked her to. I told her how I felt about her and said I was sorry for how I treated her, and I took her for granite. Normally I would defend myself with any issue that was brought up.
She said she needed time to digest everything. I told her that is fine as I did not want an answer of some sort anyways. About 30 minutes after she left I get a text that says "Can we start by being friends?". Of course I replied back "Sure, I would like that". I'm hoping that is a sign that there may be a small chance. I am not basing my happiness on any certain outcome. I'm going to be happy either way. I know I can't push now and need to still back off and give her space. Or she could of just said that to appease me. I hope not as we have been getting along good. We hugged and cried off and on all night it seems. Thoughts?
Past Monday she wants to come over and help son with homework. I made dinner. She started putting up laundry and cleaning. THought that was strange. Said she would come over Wed. to hangout. We talked for hours. Only difference this time was I did not bring up any issue from the past, she did but that was fine. I let her talk. She said she couldn't come home because it was too late and she thinks things will go back to how they were before (me not being tentative etc.). I said "I am asking you to find it in your heart to forgive me". NOrmally I just told her to forgive me or that she should forgive me etc. This time I asked her to. I told her how I felt about her and said I was sorry for how I treated her, and I took her for granite. Normally I would defend myself with any issue that was brought up.
She said she needed time to digest everything. I told her that is fine as I did not want an answer of some sort anyways. About 30 minutes after she left I get a text that says "Can we start by being friends?". Of course I replied back "Sure, I would like that". I'm hoping that is a sign that there may be a small chance. I am not basing my happiness on any certain outcome. I'm going to be happy either way. I know I can't push now and need to still back off and give her space. Or she could of just said that to appease me. I hope not as we have been getting along good. We hugged and cried off and on all night it seems. Thoughts?