my husband and i have been together for 6 plus years, married for four of those years. i battle depression and have been very mean to him in the past and thought pushing him away was the answer. Like a great husband he stood by me. Well last month we had a minor disagreement through text messaging and he informed me he was leaving. This is his family's house and we have a four year old together, and he has opted to let me stay in the house. That night he left he started talking with a girl younger than me and basically like me just me four years ago. When i ask him if she is what he wants he says i do not know. This girl knows he is married and has no problem being the other woman. Or known for breaking up our marriage. His family thinks what he is doing is wrong and thinks he is being dumb. Since he leaving i have vowed to not go back to my depression and have taken the proper steps to stop the cycle of depression. I have taken the steps and feel i am heading in a positive light. I have also made the changes that were an issue in our marriage and am more than willing to prove actions speak louder than words. I have tons of support and he feels he has none. Our friends hope that we work out and I feel in my heart of hearts we will. I know my husband and he cannot be pushed either way, but he gave me the love not in love with you speech but when i mentioned i was havin cofee with a male friend, he freaked out. Was angry and he always wants to know what i am doing. It is like he knows my life before I do. Lately it seems he trys to pick fights about stuff, and he has said that i always say i am going to change but never do. this time i am for real and feel this girl is just a crutch bc he had to ask our friends if he should leave. I also know he is afraid to be alone, he is a great man and we do not show this in front of our son. He hears about stuff even if I have not told anyone. Then questions me on it. Am I wrong to feel we will work it out. He has told me that he can't come to our home because he feels like I cry each time but I do not. He also insists on giving me hugs everytime, even if I do not ask for them. Any advice on this. I will not give up my marriage and i feel my husband is afraid to come back thinking stuff will not change. I have spent a lot of time thinking if he is what i want and I have realized he is.