My mother in law has been nothing but hateful towards me. At first she would be sneaky about it, but after a while I think she realized my husband, her son, wouldn't do anything, so she started to show it and call me horrible names, mock me at the table, make fun of my family, the list goes on and on. The whole time my husband kept telling me that I was being too sensitive. I finally got TIRED of going along with it and he decided he wasn't happy and wanted therapy. I was asked to go along and the whole session blew up in my husband's face. It turned out his family and his attitude was the problem. SURPRISE. He said he was a narcissist as was his mother. They are exactly the same and he is her favorite child. We went to several sessions and we still haven't resolved anything. I saw a therapist on my own and my therapist suggested I leave him. Our therapist first asked if we wanted to end our relationship. I think she knew his personality is difficult and will always be problematic. My husband refuses to work on making things better even though he says he is making big headway, I'm not seeing it and I'm not satisfied. The therapist suggested I never see his family ever again and I've been sort of cut off, but my mother in law is still sneaky enough to send cards and notes to MY parents so she doesn't look like the monster that she is. My dad isn't fooled, but my mother is fooled by her as was I. I don't know what to do. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I've dedicated my whole adult life to my husband. I trusted him and he's controlled me, right down to what medicines I should take, where I should go, how long I should be gone, even how long I should be in the bathroom! He's lightened up a bit, but I'm so angry and I feel betrayed and I can't believe my husband still supports his mother! He will never be a real husband to me, he will always be his mother's boy. I'm so completely heartbroken, but I'm trying to trust again and not be so angry, but we aren't as loving as we should be or as we were in the past. The worst part is when I got shingles (from mother in law) and I had to take a narcotic to control the pain and she called me a drug addict. My husband heard it and said nothing. He actually defended her saying she didn't realize that it was that painful. The shingles was on my head and I'm having post herptic pain now, probably from stress from mother in law and husband. How do I mend this relationship? I told my husband that I felt completely betrayed, heartbroken and that my therapist told me to leave him. He was shocked, sort of, but when I told him about his personality trait, he understood my feelings, but is still unwilling to do anything about anything because he's stubborn and he doesn't want his family to hate him. That would be the worst thing in the world to happen to him. I don't want to make a mistake by separating or heading to divorce and he doesn't want to divorce. Can this marriage be saved? I feel like not enough is being done... or is enough being done? I'm in limbo, but he seems content. He visits his parents when I see mine because they live fairly close by each other. Luckily, they do not socialize with each other, my parents do not match the social standards or education that my mother in law requires. She's a snob, a crab and wants to be the center of attention. Help, anyone? Thank you, J.J.J.