My wife has gone through a tragic 3 years. A sister was diagnosed with glioblastoma almost 3 years ago. When she went into hospice, her second sister was diagnosed with metastatic cancer of the appendix......
The second sister had been estranged from the family for several years due to unacceptable behavior towards her siblings.....
This involved identity theft, steaing credit cards, etc......
She got back in touch when the first sister became ill, and helped with her care. During this time she re connected with my wife, and engaged in hours long phone calls several times a week.
When the second sister died, about 4 months ago, my wife was grief stricken, as one would expect, but she seems to be unable to pull out of it.
She flies into fits of rage at the drop of a hat, blames me for being mean, and angry, and dosn't see her own irrational actions.
Even our step son is concerned that she has not snapped out of it, and that she is taking it harder than when our son committed suicide 14 years ago.
My wife and son were extremely close, and he was home with her 24/7 up till his death, and while she took it hard, she pulled out of it with no real problems.
This time, with her sister, she just can't snap out of it, and our marriage is taking a beating.
A couple of months ago, I became ill, and required some surgery. At that time she snapped out of it a little, but she is right back into her funk.
She says she is thinking about seeing a councillor, but I don't expect her to make the effort.......
She has always had a guift for counciling others, and when our son committed suicide she was actually councilleng paintents in the waiting room of her councellors office...One man she knew, said I don't need a counsellor now, I have you.....The councillor told her that she didn't need him, as her attitude and faith would pull her through....
It seems that attitude and faith are gone, and our marriage may be the first casuality.......
She is constantly bringing up things to start arguments ....Sometimes from things I said 40 years ago.
I man dosn't stand a chance if he can't be forgiven for transgressions (no, no affairs) lmost half a century ago.
The rest of her family loves me, as I raised her brother and have help all of them financially and emotionally through the years.....46 years of marriage.
I am at the end of mt roap......
The second sister had been estranged from the family for several years due to unacceptable behavior towards her siblings.....
This involved identity theft, steaing credit cards, etc......
She got back in touch when the first sister became ill, and helped with her care. During this time she re connected with my wife, and engaged in hours long phone calls several times a week.
When the second sister died, about 4 months ago, my wife was grief stricken, as one would expect, but she seems to be unable to pull out of it.
She flies into fits of rage at the drop of a hat, blames me for being mean, and angry, and dosn't see her own irrational actions.
Even our step son is concerned that she has not snapped out of it, and that she is taking it harder than when our son committed suicide 14 years ago.
My wife and son were extremely close, and he was home with her 24/7 up till his death, and while she took it hard, she pulled out of it with no real problems.
This time, with her sister, she just can't snap out of it, and our marriage is taking a beating.
A couple of months ago, I became ill, and required some surgery. At that time she snapped out of it a little, but she is right back into her funk.
She says she is thinking about seeing a councillor, but I don't expect her to make the effort.......
She has always had a guift for counciling others, and when our son committed suicide she was actually councilleng paintents in the waiting room of her councellors office...One man she knew, said I don't need a counsellor now, I have you.....The councillor told her that she didn't need him, as her attitude and faith would pull her through....
It seems that attitude and faith are gone, and our marriage may be the first casuality.......
She is constantly bringing up things to start arguments ....Sometimes from things I said 40 years ago.
I man dosn't stand a chance if he can't be forgiven for transgressions (no, no affairs) lmost half a century ago.
The rest of her family loves me, as I raised her brother and have help all of them financially and emotionally through the years.....46 years of marriage.
I am at the end of mt roap......
Our son committed suicide 14 years ago. He had just reached the age where he was moving out on his own when he developed severe paranoid schizophrenia. 
