Daisygirl41: After the divorce, phone bills show numerous phone calls some 3 hours long with a few breaks, texts in early morning hours and the only one I did find 2 weeks after it was sent was from her to him at 5:15am saying "I am here". He said Mel was a new employee who came to pick him up that morning because his car broke down. I don't have more proof than this. They said "Nothing happened". DrMathias, a counselor, he and I called her and she acted blase, under her breath she said to him "You betrayed me maan". Sounds like they hooked up big time. He said she was telling him she was under the sheets with her legs spread apart/ one leg hanging off the bed, but he ended the conversation (blatant sex talk is his concept of flirting BTW). He tells me the only proof I have is phone bills which only show phone calls versus touching or meeting up. So the phone bills showed that they stopped talking for about 1 month. He said she had asked him if he was sleeping with anyone since the divorce and he told her me. He would not say if it was a question or statement when she said "No obligations". So, they did hook up it seems and she found out he was still "with" me. I didn't even know I was a player when she, the player, got played. She didn't like it. But the emotional investment between them is so great...Let's call it what it really is, the love relationship, that I think she came back to him during our reconciliation. I felt it in every part of my being, was too naiive to get to solid proof before we remarried...Not to mention I felt like I was in a daze when I found out...I was in a different kind of bewilderment fog. But I think they love each other. I think it's just that the societal ramifications of them making it permanent will be great since he apparently lied to me, his children, his family, my family, counselors and the church about it all.