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Early on I would invite my wife (not divorced yet) over for dinner or to help with homework for our son. My intentions were to get back together. One night after son went to bed we started talking about divorce issues. only I remained calm. We were sipping on beer the whole night and we started talking about child support. She lost her cool. Ended up waking our child three times. Plus acting like an ass in the garage and driveway at midnight. I she said some mean things about what type of man would take child support from a woman, and I am not a man, and I am a pu**y if I took support. I remained calm and I ever lost my cool. I tried to get her to come inside and go to the bed and I would sleep on the couch. She drank too much to drive. Ended up her friend came and got her. I told her she could not come here anymore since she can't keep her cool.
Several weeks later she called because she wanted her birth certificate. Son was with her so I told her to come by after he went to bed ( she is staying at her parents). She calls at 10pm to say she can't come and will stop by in the morning. I go to bed. 30 minutes later she calls and says she is on the way. I tell her not to come as I am in bed and just to come in the morning. She says she is coming anyway ad I can't stop her. Her name is on the house still but she moved out. I know she legally has a right but now she is being disrespectful to me. She gets here and opens the door with her key and I don't let her in. She then threatens to call my parents. I guess they will put me in timeout? She ends up calling my parents. That didn't work so she calls 911 (she said it was accident, yeah right) and hangs up. They call back and she gives them our address (she does not recall giving them the address, yeah right!!!) and then she leaves. 2 cop cars show up and I explain what happened and they suggested I go to the court house and get something to keep her away from the house. I forgot the name of the form but I went to the courthouse and they said that form is a part of a restraining order. So I end up not doing it as that was too extreme as I wanted her to stay away from the house and that is it.
Several weeks pass and I extend the branch again and tell her she can stop by and do homework with our son. Now she says she doesn't feel safe here and doesn't trust me as I threatened to put a restraining order on her. She says she will take our son to her parents and do his homework and I said no. If she wants to do it when he is with me then she can do it here. Now she is mad as I am keeping our son from her. And everything has to be done my way.
Am I being an ass? I do not want her to have her cake and eat it too. She wants a divorce but wants to come here when she pleases. I want her to know what it's going to be like after the divorce is final. Is that so mean?
Several weeks later she called because she wanted her birth certificate. Son was with her so I told her to come by after he went to bed ( she is staying at her parents). She calls at 10pm to say she can't come and will stop by in the morning. I go to bed. 30 minutes later she calls and says she is on the way. I tell her not to come as I am in bed and just to come in the morning. She says she is coming anyway ad I can't stop her. Her name is on the house still but she moved out. I know she legally has a right but now she is being disrespectful to me. She gets here and opens the door with her key and I don't let her in. She then threatens to call my parents. I guess they will put me in timeout? She ends up calling my parents. That didn't work so she calls 911 (she said it was accident, yeah right) and hangs up. They call back and she gives them our address (she does not recall giving them the address, yeah right!!!) and then she leaves. 2 cop cars show up and I explain what happened and they suggested I go to the court house and get something to keep her away from the house. I forgot the name of the form but I went to the courthouse and they said that form is a part of a restraining order. So I end up not doing it as that was too extreme as I wanted her to stay away from the house and that is it.
Several weeks pass and I extend the branch again and tell her she can stop by and do homework with our son. Now she says she doesn't feel safe here and doesn't trust me as I threatened to put a restraining order on her. She says she will take our son to her parents and do his homework and I said no. If she wants to do it when he is with me then she can do it here. Now she is mad as I am keeping our son from her. And everything has to be done my way.
Am I being an ass? I do not want her to have her cake and eat it too. She wants a divorce but wants to come here when she pleases. I want her to know what it's going to be like after the divorce is final. Is that so mean?