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Hi everyone,
I'm not even sure where to start. I found this website while searching for a way to cope with what I'm feeling.
My story unlike others is very complicated.
I met my husband 6 years ago, we both worked for the same company and he was attracted to me and after just two dates he wanted a relationship. After dating for 6 months, i found out he wasn't legal in the country, so of course i offered and we got married.
No one knew but him and his family since i was only 23 at the time and i knew my parents wouldn't approve.
So for my parents, i've been engaged for 6 years, for his parents and family i've been married for 4.
Everytime i bring up a real wedding and for him to do right by me, it's always the same excuse, "we can't afford it" or "i'm the only one working". It's always the same sad excuses every time.
In Sept, he admitted cheating on me with a woman at work, said it's been going on for 4 months. I called her and told her that he was married, which he never told her. I found dirty pics on his laptop and videos.
Now his conditional green card is expired and this month is the last month to send additional paperwork to remove the conditional and make it a permanent green card. Part of me want to cancel the petition, the other part of me wants him to have his papers.
I'm more than hurt, i feel betrayed, stupid. I'm not sure how i will tell my parents, i feel like they need to know the truth. I do want to forgive my husband, but it's just too much to take. How could he do this to me? Everyday i'm finding out more about the affair and he even slept with her in our bed. My parents are aware of the affair, but at this point they deserve to know the whole truth.
I married this man because i loved him and wanted us to have a family, but i've been blind and stupid. How can someone be so cruel???
I'm not even sure where to start. I found this website while searching for a way to cope with what I'm feeling.
My story unlike others is very complicated.
I met my husband 6 years ago, we both worked for the same company and he was attracted to me and after just two dates he wanted a relationship. After dating for 6 months, i found out he wasn't legal in the country, so of course i offered and we got married.
No one knew but him and his family since i was only 23 at the time and i knew my parents wouldn't approve.
So for my parents, i've been engaged for 6 years, for his parents and family i've been married for 4.
Everytime i bring up a real wedding and for him to do right by me, it's always the same excuse, "we can't afford it" or "i'm the only one working". It's always the same sad excuses every time.
In Sept, he admitted cheating on me with a woman at work, said it's been going on for 4 months. I called her and told her that he was married, which he never told her. I found dirty pics on his laptop and videos.
Now his conditional green card is expired and this month is the last month to send additional paperwork to remove the conditional and make it a permanent green card. Part of me want to cancel the petition, the other part of me wants him to have his papers.
I'm more than hurt, i feel betrayed, stupid. I'm not sure how i will tell my parents, i feel like they need to know the truth. I do want to forgive my husband, but it's just too much to take. How could he do this to me? Everyday i'm finding out more about the affair and he even slept with her in our bed. My parents are aware of the affair, but at this point they deserve to know the whole truth.
I married this man because i loved him and wanted us to have a family, but i've been blind and stupid. How can someone be so cruel???