My wife & I have been together for a couple of years and recently married this past spring. Sex in the beginning was great. I told her of my fantasy of having her go braless in public and occasionally doing something sexual on the internet in front of a consenting adult. We did this a few times in the beginning of our relationship and she soon soured from it and has been most unwilling to participate. We go thru times when I'll ask her to do it, she'll say no but once in a while she will say yes, build my hopes up only to change her mind. She doesn't seem to understand how it hurts when she does that. She will say "why can't we just have "regular" sex?" But the problem is we are a blended marriage with 2 young kids that live with us full time. Both are from her previous marriage. They go to bed by 7:30 or 8:00 most nights. My wife also goes to bed at that time. She NEVER stays up with me. She says come up stairs and cuddle. When I get there, she has her smart phone, her laptop & her kindle AND the tv is on as well. She will also spend about 20 minutes in the bathroom doing her nightly routine which includes rubbing cream all over her face that smells horrible. Despite this I'll try to initiate affection, and she will either shoo me away or fart! I end up staying downstairs watching tv. I feel like she has no passion for me anymore and I'm wondering why she even stays with me. She has a couple of male friends she texts back and forth with in and out of work that she is very secretive about. She is usually very dilegnent about erasing all comunications with them but I recently saw a phone bill with multiple calls to the same guy along with text messages. When I confront her with my concerns, she gets very defensive and tells me that I'm a jealous fool and to stop. She says they are just friends and its always about work. Can someone please give me some insight as to what I'm dealing with here? Thanks!