[bandit.45]

I rarely share anything personal about myself, but I will divulge that I wear a bra 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to protect my investment. That was the first piece of advice my plastic surgeon gave me after surgery. :wink2:

The ONLY skin holding up your breasts is the skin across the top of your chest. Whether you're 'only' a B cup or not, the weight of your breasts continually pulling down on that skin WILL eventually have a negative affect on that skin and eventually, you'll be able to tuck those babies into the waistband of your pants. Not a pretty sight.

The only time I go out bra-less is in a halter type top that's meant to be worn that way, or at the beach in a bikini. Otherwise, I'm all about protecting my investment.

I really don't like it when women go braless and develop those stretch marks at the tops of their breasts. Very...not good...

 

[269370]

I rarely share anything personal about myself, but I will divulge that I wear a bra 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to protect my investment. That was the first piece of advice my plastic surgeon gave me after surgery. :wink2:

The ONLY skin holding up your breasts is the skin across the top of your chest. Whether you're 'only' a B cup or not, the weight of your breasts continually pulling down on that skin WILL eventually have a negative affect on that skin and eventually, you'll be able to tuck those babies into the waistband of your pants. Not a pretty sight.

The only time I go out bra-less is in a halter type top that's meant to be worn that way, or at the beach in a bikini. Otherwise, I'm all about protecting my investment.

I suppose it’s a bit like when I have to go out and forget to put on underwear; it can get painful sometimes when it starts dragging behind me on the pavement after a while, due to skin elasticity.

In terms of protecting my investments...
I prefer to hedge with a naked put, before going long, very long, after a position of my choosing.

We are still talking about the stock market right?


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[Prodigal]

... I wear a bra 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to protect my investment.

Doesn't it get rather hot during the summer months? It's already almost 90 here and the thought of wearing a bra other than when I go out is something I can't imagine!

 

[RandomDude]

When I first saw this thread I just saw:

"Braless. Hubby has a big..."

Heh, a problem wasn't what I was expecting...

 

[jsmart]

First off I will say that I also think a woman going out in public braless is indeed tacky; unless she is doing it for affect... such as when she wears a spaghetti-strap party dress or something like that where wearing a bra is just not feasible. But those are special cases.

Having said that, I do not think your husband meant it was YOU who he found disgusting. He, like many people, just thinks a woman going braless in public is inappropriate. I think in this instance he just didn't think before he shot his mouth off. He could have worded it better. Cut him some slack...he didn't mean to hurt your feelings.

In fact I would go further in saying that because your husband loves you and cherishes you, he doesn't want you to do anything untoward that would cause you to look cheap or lacking in propriety. He's proud of you, and wants to protect your reputation, even if it means saving you from your own poor choices at times. He's your husband...it's his job to jerk your leash once in a while, as it is your job to point out when he is being an idiot and to keep him in line too. That is what married people who love each other do.

You're a married woman, which means sometimes you have to weigh your personal "freedom" against keeping harmony in your marriage. Wearing a bra in public, in my opinion, is a very small sacrifice to keep your husband calm and happy. And to keep you from looking like a cheap ho....

Totally agree that he could have worded it better but you're his wife and mother of his kid and he's going to be very protective over you. No man wants his woman exposing herself or in going braless, bring on male attention.

Your husband knows the power of a female nipple. We men are easily drawn in. So, no you're husband doesn't really think you going braless makes you disgusting, it's that you'll be showing other men what only he should get to see.

 

[john117]

Not all husbands have a problem with their wives' excessive skin display (ESD for you electrical engineer types). I actually enjoyed the resulting attention she received.

Good old days...

 

[Real talk]

GF has b cups and she's gone braless before. I've never been one to dictate or even provide input to what a woman wears but I didn't necessarily like the looks. Not from insecurity but it just brings too much attention from men AND women and I can't necessarily blame them so it's not out of anger. Now I'll tell her to wear one and she has no problem because she respects my desires.

Never get with a "pound sand" spouse who's too hard headed to respect your wishes, man or woman.

 

[Edmund]

Not all husbands have a problem with their wives' excessive skin display (ESD for you electrical engineer types). I actually enjoyed the resulting attention she received.

Good old days...

I am a retired electrical engineer and I always thought ESD meant electro-static discharge. By golly it's never too late to learn something new.

OP, put me in the camp that says it depends on where you are going as to how you should dress, including the bra question. But when I see a woman without bra that is revealing something, I usually notice it and enjoy the view, but nothing more. Your call. But your husband should never call you disgusting. He has a problem there. Somebody tossing cookies on the pavement... now that is disgusting. Female body, delightful.

 

[Herschel]

Nothing is sexier than touching braless breasts through a shirt. Didn’t really add to whether you should go out or not without a bra. I just got sideboobtracked.

 

[Personal]

I like the fact that some women go out braless.

I also like the fact that when my wife isn't at work she always goes out braless for me. I also like the fact that my wife sometimes does the same sans knickers as well.

 

[aine]

Hi everyone

Any help would be appreciated.

I realize this may not seem like a big issue to most but it is to me right now and i need to fix it as im hurt. It doesn't sound serious to some but its serious and hurtful and confusing enough for me to join a forum so please see it from my eyes.

To make a long story shortish, weve been together for 8 years and have one child. Overall everything is and has been fantastic!

For various reasons, after having our child, i did not leave the house for years unless very necessary (personal issues)

I am now more active again and go out a little. Because ive been home for so long i have gotten accustomed to not wearing a bra.

The other day, my hubby told me that if i leave the house i must wear one. I asked him why and he responded by telling me its disgusting. This upset me as i took it as an insult to my looks. (Because im older (37 years) and have breast fed
(But i know personally my breasts have not had a big change most likely due to them being on the smaller side)

I asked him do i look disgusting to him? He said no you dont. All women look disgusting if they are braless. (I am talking about just not wearing a bra in normal tops. I am not talking about some see thru clothing or anything crude)

Im trying to work out where this came from. Yes i used to wear one but now i am accustomed to not wearing one and its much more comfortable.

It still hurts me what he said and its difficult to get much more info out of him than what ive said here.

So as silly as this sounds, its affected my thoughts on our relationship (not seriously but enough to upset me) because i in a way still feel he is saying YOU look disgusting.

What i guess i need to know is honest opinion from both male and female is does being braless in public really look disgusting to others? Or is it some issue my hubby have?

Thanks
K

I agree with your husband. men have enough issues without ogling what is easy to see.
Your H may not be comfortable with other men being able to see that part of your anatomy.
I think it is also a matter of respect for yourself and others to cover up, wear a bra etc. I know I am not interested in seeing nipples, bum cracks or camel toe, etc. I think a majority of people feel the same way.

 

[poida]

Really!!! You'd rather completely disregard your husband's (reasonable and natural concerns) than just put on a d*mn bra. Grow up.
Ask yourself why you crave the attention (Im not buying your claim that you don't).

 

[NobodySpecial]

Who are all these b-cup people getting people drooling over them for lack of a bra?

 

[jsmart]

Women really do not understand how visual we men are. It doesn't really matter if it's only a "B " cup. A man seeing your nipple through your clothes, will have the guy thinking sexually of you. As it is, we're already thinking these things without the nips showing through a blouse.

Just want to add, that a reasonably fit girl with a B cup can be VERY drool worthy, not all men like huge breast.

 

[NobodySpecial]

Women really do not understand how visual we men are. It doesn't really matter if it's only a "B " cup. A man seeing your nipple through your clothes, will have the guy thinking sexually of you. As it is, we're already thinking these things without the nips showing through a blouse.

Just want to add, that a reasonably fit girl with a B cup can be VERY drool worthy, not all men like huge breast.

I really don't get this. I really don't. I get that men look at women. Ok. I TOTALLY get wearing appropriate clothes for the venue. Like not wearing a bra with a blouse is just duh. But having a "rule" that your wife might get every time she goes out makes no sense to me. So what? Isn't the big deal among many men that guys look so get over it?

 

[wild jade]

If I had smaller breasts, I would never wear a bra. Ever. As it is, I wear them as rarely as possible, and am infinitely more comfortable that way.

Don't really care what anyone thinks about it. My guess is that no one even notices enough to either enjoy or be disgusted by it. I'm still wearing clothes, after all.

 

[Tiggy!]

If I had smaller breasts, I would never wear a bra. Ever. As it is, I wear them as rarely as possible, and am infinitely more comfortable that way.

Don't really care what anyone thinks about it. My guess is that no one even notices enough to either enjoy or be disgusted by it. I'm still wearing clothes, after all.

Me neither.

 

[tropicalbeachiwish]

Do you still wear one when you sleep? If so, I don't know how you do it! I am known to take off my bra during tv watching after work. I'm a pro at it! After a while, it just drives me bonkers. Outside of the house, I'm very self conscious about it though so I rarely go outside without my bra on. Things just get out of control, you know. :surprise:

OP-Your husbands choice of words was poor. But please let go of your butt hurt; I don't think that he meant it personally. IMO, I think it's important to take his opinion into consideration. There are alot of choices out there for bras. Find something that is ok for you and just wear it outside of the house when you're around him.

I rarely share anything personal about myself, but I will divulge that I wear a bra 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to protect my investment. That was the first piece of advice my plastic surgeon gave me after surgery. :wink2:

The ONLY skin holding up your breasts is the skin across the top of your chest. Whether you're 'only' a B cup or not, the weight of your breasts continually pulling down on that skin WILL eventually have a negative affect on that skin and eventually, you'll be able to tuck those babies into the waistband of your pants. Not a pretty sight.

The only time I go out bra-less is in a halter type top that's meant to be worn that way, or at the beach in a bikini. Otherwise, I'm all about protecting my investment.

 

[NobodySpecial]

I agree with your husband. men have enough issues without ogling what is easy to see.
Your H may not be comfortable with other men being able to see that part of your anatomy.
I think it is also a matter of respect for yourself and others to cover up, wear a bra etc. I know I am not interested in seeing nipples, bum cracks or camel toe, etc. I think a majority of people feel the same way.

This one kind of bugged me on a visceral level. On the one hand, I said up thread that if my husband asked me this, I would accommodate. Talk about a small battle to fight. But that is really easy for me to say since he wouldn't. Western culture crucifies Islam for their treatment of women. On the one hand, I think any religious text can be interpreted any way. On the other hand, the way Islam is done on the ground in Islamic states is pretty horrible to women. But it seems incongruous, on the one hand, to criticize that extreme manipulation of women on the one hand, and, at the same time, make women responsible for men's "issues" with seeing women's bodies in our culture.

I know, for me, when I see something nice to look at, I look at it. Then a second and a half later I think, huh, what do I want to make for dinner?

My husband has been on lately about feminism and its recent men suck dimension. And I agree with him. I hate it when he gets into the Not All Men camp because it hearkens to how the conversation is about how to walk, talk, dress and act right in society instead of how to see and hear people in said society. And how to let GO of norms and associations with labels. I think the recent wave of feminist outrage has done its own self a disservice in this area and let go of the high moral ground and made what exactly are the problems less easy to understand.

 

[Personal]

Women really do not understand how visual we men are. It doesn't really matter if it's only a "B " cup. A man seeing your nipple through your clothes, will have the guy thinking sexually of you. As it is, we're already thinking these things without the nips showing through a blouse.

Just want to add, that a reasonably fit girl with a B cup can be VERY drool worthy, not all men like huge breast.

Most of the time when my wife is braless while we're out and about, the shape of her nipples are not at all discernible through her clothing. If I want to see my wife's nipples while out, I find giving her a certain look or saying "show me" is the only reliable way to see anything.

I also occasionally see the shape of a woman's nipples through their clothing, which can occur with some bras. Yet that certainly doesn't trigger me into thinking about the majority of them sexually. Just as I seem to be able to see plenty of women sans any clothing, when they model for me, without having any sexual thoughts for almost all of them.