Boyz! Ballroom dancing...would you, did you..why?

Dancing is a priority activity in my house. Have tried to go without it but that didn't fly. I do Argentine Tango as it's a bit more open-ended with regard to how much you can do with what you learn, not a canned program but more like taking art lessons. Once you have the basics down you're good, you can improv, and you definitely connect more as a couple, and can take it to clubs very easily for practice and a fun night out.

I met my Sweetie at ballroom dance, we danced together for almost a year before dating seriously, then he had a serious brain hemorrhage and that really sucked.

Dancing is a fun activity, you can take Latin dance or Swing, you don't have to sign up for a course, you can usually find a place that offers an intro lesson, like at a restaurant (Mexican, for example) and then has some dancing afterwards along with dinner. I've taken my kids to Cuban dance night a couple times and it was loads of fun. For $60 we ate, drank and danced til nearly midnight, then drove home under the moon.

I have never tried ballroom, I'm terrified of dancing, hate it, it is far and away my least favorite activity, and whenever I've tried to push myself to (I have a friend who invites me for salsa on his home made dance floor with a bunch of his salsa group) I feel like crap (my self esteem bottoms out hard, no matter what kind of dancing it is) for the duration and for weeks and months after, but I keep trying because it feels like there is something wrong with me and I need to overcome it... plus I know there is nothing more sexy about a man who dances (cause almost every woman I know has literally told me so, even if the guy is not so good). So I want to experiment with this despite the tremendous anxiety it brings.

I offered to go to ballroom lessons with my now ex W because it is really popular in my city, but she had zero interest she only like hiphop and nothing else. sigh.

Now, if a beautiful woman somehow insisted I go to be her dance partner, I definitely would take her offer and I most inevitably would regret it.

LearninAsWeGo said:

Any guy who genuinely likes to dance is gay or latino. I honestly believe that. There is the rare rare guy who is an awesome dancer from practicing, but he did that to impress people (breakdancing, house, etc) or to get attract women and get female company... and a lot of those guys are open or closet ****/bi.

Straight American guys will dance to get LAID... end of story. I practiced some waltz type steps off youtube with my wife before our reception. We go out to the salsa club or disco bar occasionally. I'm doing it to get laid and to meet her needs by showing interest in stuff she likes... just like she "enjoys" football or baseball games with me from time to time. JMO

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LOL, it's true my Latino friends are awesome dancers. I love it when they SING while we're dancing. But my best dance partners in Argentine Tango are American Caucasian (my instructor) and half-Asian. My Cubano friend who dances Argentine Tango is caliente at best. I know a Pole who knows the Mongolian Waltz, he's a real jerk, recovered alcoholic, massive tattoos and on the short side, but at that dance who cares, he's expert and you need to be bull-headed for that one. My buddy was learning to dance because he did a different sport every night...and he met me. Yep, he got laid, just a few days before his massive brain hemorrhage. At least he was happy when he almost died. But he was really happy and cute when he danced, so who cares why he was doing it. Straight up Caucasian guy, middle aged, building contractor, definitely not my type, lol. I do have another Cubano friend who loves to dance. But he's an artist as well, and likes to get out and socialize, and also teaches. I'll admit I'm half Cuban. For me not to dance is like starvation. I tried and couldn't do it.

We go to milonga parties and everyone dances with everyone else. It's about socializing and mingling and having fun and building community, not about getting laid. Maybe in some crowds it would be about that, but my dance community is a group of friends, with some screwing going on around the edges. lol.