Have you asked him what he doesn't like about it? Perhaps when he said that he isn't good at it, he meant that he's a little self conscious about it. Ask him.
I think if you find yourself wishing that he were more like your past lovers you should consider that he might not be the right for you. Based on your age and your marital history you seem to have a pattern of not doing your due diligence on your marriage partners. I wouldn't get married to anyone unless I thought the sex life was better than anything I had had previously. Otherwise you'll spend your life looking back, not forward.so the question I have is for all the men out there. I am 29 years old my boyfriend is 25 I have been married two times before and never had a problem with sexy clothing or role playing but this guy is different. My boyfriend doesn't mind sexy clothing cause what man does but he doesn't appreciate it either it doesn't bother me because frankly its not comfortable but it makes me wonder if there is a personal reason as to why he doesn't like it. Also with role playing I found in previous relationships trying new things is a great way to spice things up and at least for a woman a chance to release your wild side and get super turned on it's flawless foreplay in my opinion. What might be a reason why he wouldn't be interested in this? Is this an age thing or is this again a personal thing? sometimes when I mention role playing he says he doesn't want to do it because he is not good at it??? what the heck you don't have to be good just have fun. Also a little background my boyfriend is in the business of helping guys discover their inner man so he is teaching men how to be attractive but he is not doing the best at being that way with me not trying to insult his practice I am just interested in the why behind it. your thoughts are appreciated.