My husband and I have been married for 5 years been together 10. We have a 7 yr old son and I have an 11yr daughter. He joined the army 2 months after we got married he was gone for yr and half we seen him 2 weeks out of that time. I was home with family so it wasn't horrible. When he came back we moved 12 hours away from home. Every 3 months he went to the field for at least 3 weeks at a time. What I'm getting at is I have always been left to deal with kids house and everyday things while working full time. He has been in Korea since Jan again gone for a year. I have decided to do me this time. I packed up moved to a state I wanted to live in went back to school "I will be done with school end of Dec". My husband and I have been fighting nonstop since he left over stupid little things. I think he is mad he can no longer dictate what I am doing. I started seeing someone just as a friend at first his daughter babysat for me and he would help me with yard work and stuff that was broke around house. My husbanded hated idea I had help. I think that is what attracted me to this man. This man and I started dating in May. He recently moved to this state to be closer to me. I love him, I can be me around him he supports me going back to school and other decisions I have made. I need advice on how I can tell my husband I want a divorce. I was going to wait till he came home but I'm done. The only way we communicate is through text message. Can I move in with boyfriend before divorce is final? My kids do not know we are dating. We really want to be able to spend holidays together.