I think it is ok as long as you are the only man who knows this.So I've noticed that my wife is more fun sexually after drinking a few shots of tequila. Is there a consensus on if my encouraging this healthy for our relationship or is it normal for most women to loosen up like this?
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I never learned my Latin .....Sometimes I think my wife has internalized, in a Freudian sense, all the worst parts of the Catholic Church. She has a hard time enjoying herself, but a few drinks make it a lot easier.
I’d say go for it unless you’re encouraging her to become an alcoholic.
The woman has a brain. She would be perfectly responsible for what she puts in her body so unless he is literally forcing alcohol down her throat he isnt turning her into anything.Sure, turn her into a drunk and destroy her liver and possibly cause numerous other health issues including cancer, because it makes sex more fun for you.
Unless she's a people pleaser then she will do whatever he wants to make him happy even if that means putting her own health at risk.The woman has a brain. She would be perfectly responsible for what she puts in her body so unless he is literally forcing alcohol down her throat he isn't turning her into anything.
Even people pleasers are responsible for themselves. I do agree moderation is best lol. I enjoy a drink though because I still get ridiculously shy from time to time or am really uptight. But in all seriousness I hardly think the OP intends to get his wife drunk every night just to please him.Unless she's a people pleaser then she will do whatever he wants to make him happy even if that means putting her own health at risk.
For the record I'm not against drinking in moderation. I can't because it's a depressant and I don't need any help with that. LOL Too much alcohol also ages you and I'm vain. I'd rather drink water. However I'm fun without the booze so we're good.
LOL yeah sure. Doesn't everyone know alcohol lowers inhibition? I really am not trying to be snarky. I just can't help myself here. Actually, this is the serious part of my post.I think it is ok as long as you are the only man who knows this.
Life long Catholic here, so is my wife. She must have missed those parts. She's still a freak even in her 50s. :smthumbup:Sometimes I think my wife has internalized, in a Freudian sense, all the worst parts of the Catholic Church. She has a hard time enjoying herself.
I agree....to a point. My husband is a people pleaser and would do anything for me. Even though yes he is responsible for himself that still doesn't give me the right to use this quality against him. That would make me a user.Even people pleasers are responsible for themselves.
AMEN!! Almost 47 here and I know exactly what you mean. Booze isn't near as much fun now as it was when I was 20 or even 30. In fact it makes me feel WORSE and then sex isn't fun at all.Big difference between 20 and 50. You will figure it out. I'd advise against leaning too much on the crutch of booze
I agree with this. I grew up Roman Catholic, but what you don't know is my dad was studying to be a priest. I think that had a whole bunch to do with how they raised me. I also think they wanted one of us boys to become a priest and that is why they did not tell me about sex. I can't prove it now because my dad has passe on...mum is close.Life long Catholic here, so is my wife. She must have missed those parts. She's still a freak even in her 50s. :smthumbup:
Ummm, "a few shots of tequila" two nights per week isn't drinking in moderation. It's binge drinking. One drink each evening would be moderate drinking.Wow some strong opinions. Thanks. She doesn't get drunk necessarily so i don't think drinking in moderation a night or two per week is going to do too much damage. And i never force her to do anything.
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Great point. I didn't say that it wasn't enjoyable without the loosening up. I certainly is.And please be very careful about the degree to which you impress on her that you prefer her when she's drunk. You don't want to send the message that she needs to be drunk in order to be desired, or that her real (sober) self isn't enough for you. My husband pushed a bit of that from time to time in our marriage. Trust me, nothing down that road but crappy self-esteem for her and a bad sex life and marriage for the both of you.