I own the workbook the goes with this (A Gift to Myself: Healing the Child Within) and while I think it's great I think it should come a fair warning: It won't do anything for you unless your willing to do the work and open to digging deep and facing some potentially very painful past experiences. And doing that work takes time. I've had this workbook for a year and still haven't finished all the sections.There is a book out there called Healing the Child Within (or something like that) that is a good one about codependency as well.
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives:
Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions --
Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others --
Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator --
Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.