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My Fiance really wants to finish in my mouth, but I have an extremely hard time with him cumming in my mouth and swallowing because it makes me gag/throw up. Is there any way to over come this, or is it something that he is just going to have to deal with?
 

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If it makes you sick and throw up I would say he is going to have to learn to deal with it. Your a package deal if you dont like the idea of taking his cum then dont.

If he wants a woman that will thats his choice too. Its the risk you take. If its high on his list he might look later in life for someone that will do it.


You all really need to discuss what you both are willing to life with?
Can you get use to spitting it?
 

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What about spitting afterwards and not swallowing?
I personally don't see the benefit of having my wife swallow if she doesn't want to, makes no difference to me. But it does feel nice to release while in the mouth, no doubt!
 

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My wife will occasionally let me finish in her mouth, but she doesn't swallow. She says it gives her an intense stomach ache afterwards. I'm OK with her letting it run out of her mouth, and/or spitting it out, as long as she doesn't make a big production out of it.

She is happy to let me cum on her face, or pretty much anywhere else in or on her body for that matter. Swallowing is simply an issue for her. For me, I probably want her to swallow mostly because that is something I can't have, it's not a big deal.

OP, you should talk to him about this some time when you are not about to, in the middle of, or just finished giving him a BJ. Let him know it makes you physically sick to swallow it. Perhaps he would be OK with you letting him cum in your mouth if you can spit it out, or let him cum on your face or some other part of your body. It's a communication issue of you ask me.

BTW, I have been married for 26 years.
 

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im a guy and if it made my wife sick i wouldnt do it, now does my wife swallow yeah not because she likes it because it is easier, nothing to clean up. gives her a stomach ache so rarley do i finish in her mouth for that reason
 

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Depending how pushy he is about this.

If he's politely asking, not so bad.

But if he's being really pushy about this, bad sign.
Points to troubles ahead. Points to self centeredness, aggressive, control behavior. Doesn't make for good husband IMHO.

If he's pushy with this, is he pushy with other things? If so, better to find out know then later.
 

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I am a wife who's never allowed hubby to finish a bj in my mouth. He learned the hard way that I don't just gag, I throw up. Don't know if it's something about the texture or consistency. However, in my 20 year relationship with hubby, I've tried just about all of the products in the market to help with gag reflexes. None have worked for me. Fortunately, it's not a deal breaker for my husband.

FWIW, if your fiancee truly cares about you, he won't expect or demand that he finish in your mouth. If he doesn't understand what you go through, ask him to let you shove a toothbrush to the back of his throat to trigger his gag reflex.

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Well dayum, you really tried. My hats off to you.

And if the fiancee really cares, don't put a tootbrush to the back of the throat, put in his mouth a dildo approximately his size and try to work it into his throat. I'm not sure he would be motivated to do this...:D
 
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If you are willing to work on it, then do so. But if it is just something that you really, really do not want to try, then tell him so. If you do decide to try to work on it, my suggestion is that when you know he is getting close, try to have him as deep as possible. This is what I normally try to do, and it just kind of goes right down my throat, no need to swallow. I don't really like to have him cum in my mouth, cause its kind of ick. But if it goes right down my throat it does not bother me a bit!
 

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If you are willing to work on it, then do so. But if it is just something that you really, really do not want to try, then tell him so. If you do decide to try to work on it, my suggestion is that when you know he is getting close, try to have him as deep as possible. This is what I normally try to do, and it just kind of goes right down my throat, no need to swallow. I don't really like to have him cum in my mouth, cause its kind of ick. But if it goes right down my throat it does not bother me a bit!
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BJ's are very important to men. Even more so to those who don't get them!

I guess in a way its like tongue kissing....its very personal. PIV all happens 'down there'...oral happens...well, up here!

Letting your partner ejaculate in you mouth is, for him, a sign that you are 'accepting' his seed. If you swallow, even more so.

However, I can appreciate your not liking the taste etc. Sometimes we all have to do things we dont particularly like doing...but we do them because of teh pleasure it gives someone we love.

Maybe occasionally surprise your husband and let him cum in your mouth....and if you really cant swallow, wait a minutes whilst he 'dies' down the let it dribble out over his c0ck....

My wife of 20 years has NEVER even kissed my c0ck...Do it for him. Occasionally.
 

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Life, this is a simple one. If you naturally have a strong gag reflex and you can't swallow then your other half will have to be ok with that.
You can lick it a little bit in aide to using your hands but don't force yourself into a situation where you are uncomfortable or might make you be sick. Making love on any level is supposed to be enjoyable for both parties involved.
 
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If it is that important to him have him throw a condom on at the end. If its not important, which imo, it shouldnt be, then simply dont swallow it, I can certainly understand why you wouldnt want to as I wouldnt want to either, lol, but then again Im a guy and dont have to cross that bridge.
 

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A radio call in "sex expert" used to recommend what she referred to as the porn star blow job for women who couldn't swallow. Basically don't really allow the cum to enter your mouth but push it out and let it run back down his c*ck. Most guys would love that imagery.
 

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My Fiance really wants to finish in my mouth, but I have an extremely hard time with him cumming in my mouth and swallowing because it makes me gag/throw up. Is there any way to over come this, or is it something that he is just going to have to deal with?


There is a book called "Blow him away" by Marcy Michaels. It is a great place to start. You sound like a very loving fiance who is trying to understand your honey. You are already off to a great start. The book is very good...just adjust it to your own love life.



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Whether or not it's deal breaker depends on the fiancee's level of experience and what he has been acustomed to. From our first time before we married, my wife has always let me finish in her mouth and has swallowed every time. It's never been a big deal to her because that's how she learned and has always done it. It was a new experience for me, but now after 18 years I can't imagine any other ending.

The best thing is to have a serious talk with your fiancee and agree on expectations and boundries. If it is a deal breaker, it's best to find out now.
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There is a book called "Blow him away" by Marcy Michaels. It is a great place to start. You sound like a very loving fiance who is trying to understand your honey. You are already off to a great start. The book is very good...just adjust it to your own love life.



Welcome to TAM :)
A whole book on blow jobs! who woulda ever thought?

what would granny and grandpa have thought?
 
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