I came home from work on Monday night February 10 and was informed he was leaving. According to him neither one of us was happy and he had decided he wawe s leaving. He wanted his vehicle some money his "stuff" and to see his daughter(we also have a son). I tried to get him to talk about it. His respones was and still is that he doesnt know what to say and can't put it into words. The night before I was informed that I wasn't happy I was planing our 20th anniversary trip. For 2 days I tried to get him to open up. I tried to get him to wait to the end of the school year even offered to work more so I wouldn't be home if he did. His response was that wouldn't be good for the kids to stay when he wasn't happy. even though he was the only one who knew he wasn't happy. I asked him why we couldn't talk about it and try to work on whatever the issues were and he said simply because he didn't want to. I told him then that he was going to be the one to tell our kids which he did the following night Feb 12 while I was at work so I don't exactly what he told them. Feb 12th he told me he found a place and moved out on the 13th. I tried sveral times to get him to talk to me texting him about once a week to ask if he was ready to talk. His response was always that he said everything already and doesnt understand what I want. After about 2 months we finally had an almost conversation in which he decided he couldn't talk to me about stuff because I was always at work. I work 2 jobs and have most of our relationship that was not new or unusual. I pointed out several occasions we had to talk and had about other things including the anniversary trip and our lack of sex life(which was our one recurring issue). To clarify we worked opposite shifts and it was difficult to get together sometimes but when we did have opportunities he never took advantage. Then he said I should have realized there was something wrong with him and called him out on it. Despite what he believes his actions never changed. When we were home together all we did was watch TV. The only difference I ever saw was the day before he informed me. We had gone out for the day and he was quiet. Our relationship was not perfect we went through quiet phases where we didn't talk much. I had no reason to believe this was any different. I can't get over how he changed practically overnight and can't give me a reason why. He still says its not another woman and he can't explain it any better than he already has. I have pointed out the mid life crisis point he is just turned 48 and he admitted he could see the similarities in some other stories I sent him but still wont talk about it. I never saw any of this coming and don't know how to handle it. How do you deal with issues when you don't even know what they are?