Here's how. Don't complain about the gift. If I understand correctly, the gift was not the only problem here. It was him eating without you, ignoring your family, and watching TV instead of spending time with you.I don't know if I should talk to my husband about this or if I should just be grateful I got anything at all... I'm really hurt.
How do I talk To him about it without sounding ungrateful?
Yes, that's very true that being considerate is more important than romantic and you should be able to expect that from your spouse. I agree with the other poster who thinks you should talk to your husband about his unwillingness to share your special day with you and your parents. That was not very considerate.@steve1000 There is being romantic and then there is being considerate and respectful....
And one day you should say, "well, I guess I have to go get my own sub because you won't"....he will make snide comments like, "we'll I guess I have to go shovel because you won't."
After hearing the above comment, it doesn't sound like this is a one time thing. It sounds very passive aggressive to me. He indirectly complains over having to do chores. I would think by doing the inside, you have more on your plate than he does (?). He makes "jokes" criticizing your body. (You both know it is not a "joke"). Then there is the the birthday behavior that was basically an insult. He knows just how to skate by that fine line.@firefly789 he can be pretty insensitive at times. But he usually does a little better for my birthday. This particular instance just made me feel like he doesn't care about me. He tells me he loves me, but never compliments me. He will joke around and tell me I have a muffin top or big thighs or something. If I get hurt feelings he will tell me I'm too sensitive and I don't know how to take a joke. I know I'm not fat - but that's not the type of thing a girl is going to find funny. I know that he loves me, and he does care about me. I guess he is just not good at showing it. ..
He does all of the outside work such as mowing lawn and shoveling. I do quite a bit of the inside stuff (he does do his own laundry). I really don't want anything to d with the outside chores, so I'm ok with that. However he will make snide comments like, "we'll I guess I have to go shovel because you won't." Then I start to feel that he resents me because I dont shovel. He will make the same comments about mowing the lawn. That makes me mad because I have a longer work day than he does. It's not like I sit around doing nothing. Plus he's bigger and stronger than I am. It's hard for me to shovel heavy snow.
:lol: This is pathetic and hilarious. And I love how you handled it!I was dating a guy for quite a while and it was my birthday. He knew it was my birthday for a while because it was a milestone birthday and elaborate plans by friends were made for me in which he was invited. He came to pick me up and handed me a card. No gift. After I read the card he reached into his wallet and handed me whatever cash was in there. Then, from my hand, he took back $5 for toll money on the way home.
I used that money to subscribe for a 3 month membership to Match.com.