So, there's a possibility my nine week separated partner is having and EA?PA with my sister-in-law. (my brothers wife)
Three weeks after he left, she wanted out of her marriage too.
My brother works away and has been sending letters and love from across the world, trying to salvage his dying marriage.
I am now at the stage where I'm not speaking to my brother or her.
Our last conversation was her telling me she had a 'connection' with my x...She meant it as friends of course. There has been lies her end -where she went to his brothers to visit him and he has been at her house having beer and pizza before she left for a few days away.
I haven't been to her house in a couple of weeks-nor did I intend to.
We live around the corner from each other.
Tonight I went to pick up my son from basketball and drove the back street. It passes at the rear of the property but you can only just see her house.
There is an open paddock and then a heavily treed area directly behind her house. You can't access the paddock except for a gate which allows herds through...but it is wide enough for a car. I notice tyre tracks leading into the back of the treed area and I think why would anyone drive in there.
Unless you were hiding a car form the highway view. I know my x is clever and I wouldn't put it past him to do this.
I pass by it and as I hit the top of the hill-my darling x drives straight towards me. (he works in the city and now lives with his brother two towns away) He pulled up along side and I said, what the 'heck are you doing here?'
He told me he was going to see our other son filming and he's looking for the pine plantation. But I feel like its a lie. He is in the wrong area.
I find out from my son who is filming that my x was the one who gave him directions. He knew where he was all along.
My x came back to the house as I had an item arrive from ebay for him and he handed me 120 dollars . Money has been awful for us.
I asked him if there was anything he needed to tell me and now was his chance. (argh) well he turned into the angriest I'd ever seen him. I remained pretty quiet while he yelled and basically told me the whole 15 years together was a sham. I asked why he wanted councling then. What his motivation was and he answered to show you what you've done to me.
I thought we were happy actually. i knew it was stressful-but I was never not ever secure in us.
I told him I felt very loved the entire relationship except for the last couple of months and he'd done a great job..cause I believed him.
We still have a house to sell and get fixed to sell.
But he left in a hurry and screaming tyres.
Til now-I have been completely good. Only letting him contact me-except for kids or business and keeping things very formal and short.
I don't think we stand a chance now.
I feel small and worthless and I wonder how Im supposed to believe any one if they ever tell me they love me again.
What do I do?